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    04-19-2013, 09:20 PM
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Foal
Frustrated In My Boyfriend's Lack of Horse Understanding

Didn't know if I should put this here or in Horse Talk, so I chose here. Lol

I found some very beautiful Andalusians for sale on Craigslist and I was trying to share my excitement at seeing such pretty animals and about how I was thinking perhaps of adding the breed to my "after I get my draft horse" list. My boyfriend just doesn't get it at all. He sees a horse and thinks "it's just another horse". Of course, I'm thinking "What do you mean it's just another horse?!? Don't you see that pretty face and the graceful curve of the animal's neck? Look at that gait!"

Do you guys have a close friend or family member who just doesn't get it? It's so hard for me to be excited about something with no one in "real" life to share the excitement.

Here's the horse I was all excited about:



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    04-19-2013, 09:22 PM
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Green Broke
Yup totally understand, my whole family is like that.

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    04-19-2013, 09:23 PM
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Trained
He's the same way I am towards cars, trucks & motorcycles when my hubby starts pointing them out to me. We all have different interests and some of us are interested in different things. Would it make you feel better if he pretended he was interested? LOL
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    04-19-2013, 09:25 PM
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Lol. I'm not sure. I think the only thing he's really interested in that I can't stand is football. We do like the same cars (hearses and suburbans among others). It just sucks that when I get a horse or two, he'll probably never ride with me. And he won't like it much when I come home smelling like a barn. I can imagine how many arguments we'll have about the "old barn smell" being the best in the world.
     
    04-19-2013, 09:31 PM
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My hubby doesnt understand and when I try to explain 'Im a know it all' lol. I hate trying to explain not to do somethin like leave the reins on the ground- he wont believe me its bad and I seem like a witch but he learns instantly why its bad.. not only can the horse get hurt but I WILL laugh when he trips over them, lol. (the hubby not the horse)
     
    04-19-2013, 09:35 PM
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Foal
I just can't imagine how he can't see how pretty that horse is! I mean, look at it! It's just princely (or princessly seeing as it's a mare). Saying "it's a horse" is like comparing a rust bucket car to an $80,000 2013 car.
     
    04-19-2013, 10:07 PM
  #7
Trained
Calisphere, my hubby does ride and takes lessons with me, but he isn't as "committed or addicted" as I am. He is really into motorcycles and I participate because, well, he takes lessons & rides, so I should make an effort. You might make an effort to enjoy the football thing a bit so when you do get a horse, you can throw that back in his face if he doesn't participate, lol!!!!
     
    04-19-2013, 10:25 PM
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Started
Just because you are passionate about something doesn't mean your boyfriend has to be. We're all different.
     
    04-19-2013, 11:06 PM
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Green Broke
My boyfriend has seen my horse once..Tried to tell me she was just like his beagle and "OMG you yanked the lead! What'd you do that for!?" Because she moved too far away grazing and I gave a little jerk on the lead (she wore a chain OTN then) to get her to move back over.

Until I can trust her around him with him treating her like his dog (that he doesn't discipline either), he won't be coming around her again. I don't like being told I'm abusing my horse ("and no wonder she kicks at you") because it needs disciplined for something. He got to witness me beat her with the lead while she cowkicked, he wasn't too happy about it and blabbered the whole time about how bad he felt for her.

I'll try and teach him if he actually wants to learn (and get him his own to use), but until he asks to come with or Alahna is able to deal with stupid (she'll take total advantage), I won't be asking him if he wants to come with me to the barn.

If he never wants to be at the barn with me, that's fine. I don't want to go hunting everytime he does (though I am learning this year) either. I enjoy him for who he is, not who I want him to be (until he learns it's in his best interest ;p lol). If I wanted a guy that already knows how to ride and does such, I'd have dated someone else, lol. I think the challenge of teaching him or leaving him out of all my horse fun will be worth it in the long run.(:
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    04-19-2013, 11:24 PM
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Green Broke
OP, if you need support to enjoy your interest, are you really interested in it? Maybe you just like the social factor more.

He probably feels the same way about you when it comes to something he's really into - cars, hunting, video games, whatever.
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