Am not sure which "of the topic" forum to put this in but any way here goes..
Il try and keep this brief...
I was great friends with a girl Mary* at school, from first year right up to A-Levels
we were like 2peas in a pod
during our A-Levels there was alot of issues at home and like most people would be I wasnt myself
Mary* and 2 of our other friends just thought I was going on weird and all announced that they didnt want to be freinds anymore..
I tryed to explain what was happening at home but they didnt care and for the last 2 months of school they spent the whole time bad-mouthing me to everyone else in our class. Was horrible!
I was so glad to be finished school that summer for all the wrong reasons.....
Fast forward 2 years
I bump into Mary* one night in a pub and shes all apologetic and begging to be friends again.. and me been the big softly Iam I said ok. and to be honest I was so happy that we were friends again
it was like nothing had happened we were having nights out every other week and going to each others houses for girly nights.. was brilliant
then one night I got introduced to her cousin, and we hit it of straight away.. which I dont think she was to impressed by.
Within 1yr of me and her cousin dating she had stopped answering my texts, returing calls .. she just seemed to be distanting herself, but if I did happen to see her everything was fine
I tryed asking had I done anything to upset her but was told everything was gran, she was just bogged down with uni wk..
Then on her birthday I was kinda expecting to geta txt saying what was happening at the wken, because I rang her house and her mum said she was having a big night out at the wken and shed tell Mary*
I rang.. no txt.
Me and my boyfriend then heard through another cousin what pub every1 went to so we headed up as we were already in the town..
when I walked in she competely blanked me and my boyfriend, so I went up and said could I have a word outside ..
when we went out I was in the middle of saying Happy Birthday and she just lunged into this rant of how she hated me..every1 including my bf (her cousin) hated me and that she never wanted to see me again..
I got quite upset and ran back into the pub, she came after me and just as I was about to tell my bf that I wanted to go she told him not to go with me.. stay with her and dump me! ..
He told her to piss of and left with me..
Since that day Iv lost count how many "family dos" Iv bumped into her at and its been so awkward for me and my boyfriend..
she made a point of going around everyone ..all aunts, uncles,cousins etc and giving them her made up side of the story
they will speak to me but did you ever get that feeling everone is looking at you like they hate you? well thats what its like..
so again me been a peace-maker at heart, I tryed to speak to her one night to basically say, can we move on from this...
the following day her mum phoned me and told me to f**K of and leave her little girl alone!
Now my boyfriend knows about everything that happened but I honestly think that hes to laid back to challenge them about how they have treated me and doesnt want to "ruffle any feathers" in the family..
his mum knows about her sister ringing me and she has never said a word to me about it.. I think they just want to pretend none of its happening.
Its so upsetting, I dont know how to deal with this situation, am a lover not a fighter, am not cut out for all this bitching and back stabbing..
What would you do??
Has anyone ever had a similar situation??