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post #11 of 29 Old 02-16-2012, 01:36 AM
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These are called Monster-in-Laws...Have you ever seen that movie? If not, watch it, it's got some great ideas

I do think though that when you marry someone you do "marry" their family..like it or not, you're stuck with them. If your boyfriend really loves you, he should consider your side of the situation and take up for you..When you marry someone, that some becomes the most important person in your life. They should love, support, and 'take care' of you..Whether that be taking care of you when you're sick or hiding the body when they get sick of you..lol kidding..When you marry, or the way I see it, it's forever..
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post #12 of 29 Old 02-16-2012, 06:07 AM Thread Starter
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Sorry for not replying sooner, couldnt get a chance at work, thanks sierrams1123 for setting that out better for me..

Thankyou everyone for all your thoughts, I try and ignore what is going on best I can but there are times when its just brutally obivious. ..It leaves me that when there are functions on I just tend to keep to myself and sit in a corner so that theres no awkward moments, cause for example, my bf's cousin was visiting from australia for the first time in about 7/8 years, Id never meet her, and at a family do, I noticed her talking to *Mary and a while later my bf tryed to introduce me to her and she competely blanked me and pushed past me ... when my bf said to her what do you think your doing she just played dumb and was all over me for about 30seconds..

I hate ongoing disputes.. and thats the most annoying bit about it, to this day I dont know what I done on *Mary.. my boyfriend tryed to ask her and she couldnt give him a straight answer. I have told a few of my bf's family members what actually happened and they were so shocked.. differed so much from her side of the story.. she basically made out I was bullying her, which is laughable.
I have asked my bf could he sort this out once and for all but hes a big softy that theyd probably just shout him down, we love each other so much and will not let this come between us!

I think *Mary is quite sad to have fabricated this story and now that she has spead it around the family to turn people against me is just curel..

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post #13 of 29 Old 02-16-2012, 06:10 AM Thread Starter
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These are called Monster-in-Laws...Have you ever seen that movie? If not, watch it, it's got some great ideas
Heading to the video shop on friday .. Ill look out for that one lol
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post #14 of 29 Old 02-16-2012, 06:14 AM
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Well then what I would do it be as nice and sociable as you possible can, you and your boyfriend both know the truth so who cares if they do not like you.

Kill them with kindness, as my mother likes to say.
After a while they will/should get over things and warm up to you more, they should see that you are not the person she is trying to make you out to be.

If this does not work then so long as it does not effect your relationship then i would just try and make the best of it and ignore the others.

It seems though that you have no issues with your boyfriends actually parents, or are treating you the same?
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post #15 of 29 Old 02-16-2012, 06:28 AM Thread Starter
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It seems though that you have no issues with your boyfriends actually parents, or are treating you the same?

Well.... hmm lol Both his parents know , my bf told them whats going on and he said they seemed shocked but theyv never spoke to me about it, and they know that I know that they know lol...which is a we bit annoying in a way because it makes you feel that they dont care .. or worse.. they believe her lol there has been occasions where they treated me different to the other 5 girls (my bf has 5brothers) but I put that more down to the fact my bfs the youngest and hes his mums "baby" as she keeps reminding me lol.. but theres nothing from them I cant handle
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post #16 of 29 Old 02-16-2012, 06:45 AM
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His parents and his brothers are really the only ones that matter.
just try your best to get along with them and pit forth the effort and everything should be fine.
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post #17 of 29 Old 02-16-2012, 07:27 AM Thread Starter
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aw I get on fantastic with his brothers and their other halfs, their the ones that I told what really happened, they fully support me.
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post #18 of 29 Old 02-16-2012, 08:50 AM
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Frankly I think you are over-reacting. Why would you even care about some POS cousin? I'd care about the relations with his parents the most.

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post #19 of 29 Old 02-16-2012, 09:31 AM Thread Starter
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I wouldnt say am over-reacting.... quite frankly I think she deserves a slap for the way she has treated me, but am not going to stoop to her level.
The things she has said to my face and behind my back have been extermely hurtful, and the fact that she has bought her mother into it, (my bfs aunt) that is always in his house been a 2-faced oul witch to me pretending shes lily white and she has turned nearly all the rest of my bfs cousins and aunts and uncles against me is just totally uncalled for.. If I had done something to this girl id hold my hands up and apoligise but iv down buck all.

I was just sharing my story to see if anyone else had been put through a similar situation and how they dealt with it.
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post #20 of 29 Old 02-16-2012, 12:07 PM
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I just want to voice some support for dealing with in-law family.

I am currently no longer talking to my bf's parents or sister. Sure if I see them I will have small talk, but for the time being I am avoiding them. He has a few aunts that won't even say hello to me on Christmas, and it sucks.

I do this because I wont be able to keep my mouth shut and you know those people who cant be wrong and you can bounce their heads of walls and it wont even make a difference?
Yeah, that's his parents. I've said something about how drastically different they treat their children once and I was no longer invited to suppers.

My bf needs to say something, he is the most family loyal person I know and anything they ask he does. His parents pulled a stunt a few weeks ago and it drew the line. If my bf didn't start telling his parents off for the crap they put us, and him especially, through, I'd walk. I was even sleeping in a different room for a few days.

I know my family isn't perfect, but between family drama and annoyances my brother and his gf have actually become a familiar ground, vent option for me and my bf. So maybe just forget the rest of the family and focus on your bf's brothers. It doesn't really matter what aunts, uncles, and cousins think, but brothers matter.
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