Sorry for not replying sooner, couldnt get a chance at work, thanks sierrams1123 for setting that out better for me..
Thankyou everyone for all your thoughts, I try and ignore what is going on best I can but there are times when its just brutally obivious. ..It leaves me that when there are functions on I just tend to keep to myself and sit in a corner so that theres no awkward moments, cause for example, my bf's cousin was visiting from australia for the first time in about 7/8 years, Id never meet her, and at a family do, I noticed her talking to *Mary and a while later my bf tryed to introduce me to her and she competely blanked me and pushed past me
... when my bf said to her what do you think your doing she just played dumb and was all over me for about 30seconds..
I hate ongoing disputes.. and thats the most annoying bit about it, to this day I dont know what I done on *Mary.. my boyfriend tryed to ask her and she couldnt give him a straight answer. I have told a few of my bf's family members what actually happened and they were so shocked.. differed so much from her side of the story.. she basically made out I was bullying her, which is laughable.
I have asked my bf could he sort this out once and for all but hes a big softy that theyd probably just shout him down, we love each other so much and will not let this come between us!
I think *Mary is quite sad to have fabricated this story and now that she has spead it around the family to turn people against me is just curel..