Just got off the phone with my dad.
He is such a sweet older guy. We are going to asian food dinner, he said he would pay for my friend and I :)
Got to know a little bit more about him and a little bit more confirmation on how crazy debby (birth mom) is lol!
My birth mother didn't put him on my birth certificate and he wasn't there when I was born I think. So when our case whent to court he wasn't informed via him not being only birth certificate so we are getting a blood test to confirm.
I don't have any judgement on him asi I'd to ow him aat the time he already had a family with kids. Life can just get super screwed up sometimes. But I'm glad he did find me!
He's ring extremely respectful of my adoptive family and that means so much to me. He went on and on about Ollie and how beautiful he is. Hehe yay!
He also asked and told me to think about it, but he would like to if my mom andifeel okay with it is help pay my way through school. He was in the Veitnam war and was shot and came home with PTSD and was in the vet hospital. So through his VA stuff and proof that he is my father he would be able to help pay until am 24 and I should be through school by then!
He also wants to help buy me a car, after get my liscense as my sister works at a car dealership and gets discounts and has good cars on her lot I guess.
For sure one step at a tome. Meet him first. Then meet the rest of the family, get to know them. Then if those things fall into place and work out that would be cool but I'm not looking for benefits out of this relationship, just want a dad.
All said - stay safe, don't have too high an expectation, keep an open mind, don't ask for explanations, people make mistakes in their lives and don't always get a chance to correct them. I hope that it all works well for you both but if it doesn't then move on and put it all behind you
Well I have met him! Today was the day and I'm so glad I did it!!!
We are so much alike! It went very smoothly. I'll go more into what all we talked about tomorrow as I'm just so tired and hot right now but wanted to share a picture. I'm just so happy! Taking this week to let it all sink it and proccess it all.