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        01-24-2011, 11:34 AM
      #21
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    Great, can not wait to see them!
         
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        01-25-2011, 02:33 PM
      #22
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    Great post, Always.

    You've all rights to have your dad. Sometimes adults just can, if having very inflamed terms, forget that the relationship between the parent and the kid isn't same than the relationship between the parent and the other parent or the parent and the rest of the family.

    I'm sorry you grandma took it that way.
         
        01-30-2011, 03:48 PM
      #23
    Foal
    Not sure if I should make a new thread, or just update this one..

    We saw our dad yesterday, and went bowling. It was fun, and there were a lot of cute boys. Then when we got back to his house, we went horse riding! I got to ride a black horse, DJ. He is only 9, and is a lesson horse. I really like him, and hope I can ride him for my next lesson. The instructor said that we all kept our backs straight, which is good. I was surprised, because I usually slouch at home. We were riding western btw.

    Afterwards, we untacked them, brushed them, and turned them out. Then my sisters and I went out and visited all of the horses. They have 12! But some are boarders' horses. One of their horses, John, is an ex race horse. He's for advanced riders, and competes in barrel racing with my dad.

    Dad said that this summer we can compete in a small show that he holds at his place. Of course we won't be really good at it, but it should be fun.

    I keep my excitement from my mom and gram though. I don't want them to know, so I don't talk about it. I guess with some time, they might be more accepting.

    I'm very happy that I don't have to pay for anything, and I have one day a week with tons of horses. If I had to take lessons, it would be 1 hour a week and $40. Now I can save up for a car.

    My sisters forgot their camera, so we didn't get any pictures. Next visit, I'll make sure they bring it. And I'll try to remember to bring my camcorder. A video is probably better anyways.
         
        01-30-2011, 04:16 PM
      #24
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    I am glad that you had a better visit this time. I don't think that you should hide everything from your mom, I imagine that she would be more happy to hear that it is going well, rather than worrying that things are going badly. I wouldn't be jumping up and down excited about it, but I think you should tell her it is going well at least.

    About your dads girlfriend and your moms mom..... I don't really think it is your job to have to deal with those issues, that's for your mom and dad to deal with.

    Next time your grandma goes into a rant about your dad, just politely ask her not to discuss things like this with you as you do not appreciate hearing negative things about either of your parents. If she doesn't stop walk away. And tell your mom and ask her to deal with it for you.
         
        01-30-2011, 10:31 PM
      #25
    Green Broke
    Awesome news! Congrats with the ride! And I agree with AlexS.
         
        01-31-2011, 08:18 AM
      #26
    Foal
    Thanks everyone. You guys give great advice. :)
         
        01-31-2011, 09:00 AM
      #27
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    Quote:
    Originally Posted by AlexS    
    I am glad that you had a better visit this time. I don't think that you should hide everything from your mom, I imagine that she would be more happy to hear that it is going well, rather than worrying that things are going badly. I wouldn't be jumping up and down excited about it, but I think you should tell her it is going well at least.
    I would love to agree with this but having dealt with it my whole life I can totally see where the OP is coming from.
    I am now in my mid 40s and my mother still gets pretty darn miserable if I so much as mention having contact with my father.

    Some mothers (I am sure there are fathers too) do not want to think their kids enjoy their x-spouse, period.

    I would guess the OP can share how much she enjoyed her riding lesson and how great her riding instructor is.


    Quote:
    Originally Posted by AlexS    
    Next time your grandma goes into a rant about your dad, just politely ask her not to discuss things like this with you as you do not appreciate hearing negative things about either of your parents. If she doesn't stop walk away. And tell your mom and ask her to deal with it for you.
    I do agree with this.
         
        01-31-2011, 12:30 PM
      #28
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Alwaysbehind    
    I would love to agree with this but having dealt with it my whole life I can totally see where the OP is coming from.
    I am now in my mid 40s and my mother still gets pretty darn miserable if I so much as mention having contact with my father.

    Some mothers (I am sure there are fathers too) do not want to think their kids enjoy their x-spouse, period.

    I would guess the OP can share how much she enjoyed her riding lesson and how great her riding instructor is.



    I do agree with this.
    Since you've delt with the same type of issue..you know exactly how it is. My mom is one of those kind of parents that doesn't want me to enjoy my dad. When I told her about the horses, she just said that I better be wearing a helmet, and I better not get hurt. She doesn't care that I'm happy.

    My grandma is just horrible. We don't talk to each other much now. When I get home, I usually go straight to my room if my mom's not around. We just don't talk about it. Next time we visit, I plan on telling them that it was alright and keep it at that.

    I am for sure going to post pictures or maybe I'll get a video.
         
        01-31-2011, 01:21 PM
      #29
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    I would hope that your mother is more understanding than mine has ever been.

    Enjoy your father, enjoy your horse time.
         
        01-31-2011, 04:38 PM
      #30
    Super Moderator
    Great to hear that time was better.
         

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