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    07-25-2013, 11:39 AM
  #1
Weanling
Has anyone allowed others to move in with them?

I started this thread out of curiosity, and wanting to share my experiences, and have others do the same. I have a friend, lets call her Mary. Mary is a good hearted person, and her and her husband allowed his cousin and her family move in. Mary has a travel trailer on their property, and his cousin was down and out after being kicked out of the previous home they were living in (with another family). The cousins husband did have a job, and agreed to pay a portion of the water and light bill, to live there. As soon as they moved in, the mooching and freeloading began. These people did not pay a dime, and Mary had to feed a whole family of 4 plus her own family of 5. She had to furnish them everything from toilet paper to sanitary pads, they had nothing, bought nothing. They were there 3 months, running the a/c with the door open, wasting water, etc. They then began begrudging Mary and her family anything they had or bought, got mad when the ice cream man came, and they didn't buy ice cream for her kids as well, even tho' they were gone at the time. The last straw came, when Mary's husband got a bonus at work, and Mary bought herself $200 worth of clothes. The woman became enraged, screamed that how dare her buy new clothes when their kids were starving and they had no propane!!! Just be warned, that nothing good usually comes from taking in people like this, the more you do for someone, the more they expect. And if someone has already been kicked out of someone else's home, it is most likely because there was a **** good reason. The people packed up and moved out after the fight over Mary buying new clothes, good riddance to bad rubbish!!!
     
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    07-25-2013, 12:35 PM
  #2
Green Broke
Sorry to hear about this sad state of affairs. I have known moochers like this-they are hard to get rid of.
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    07-25-2013, 12:42 PM
  #3
Green Broke
The red flag went up within the first few sentences. They were kicked out of the other family's place. If your friend had half a brain they would cut the utilities to that trailer. If they don't get out get in touch with the police and tell them they are squatting.
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    07-25-2013, 12:50 PM
  #4
Showing
They're already gone, Slide.
     
    07-25-2013, 01:56 PM
  #5
Green Broke
Back in 02 I was still living in Northern Mississippi in my double wide on 7 acres. My best friend had a car accident when he was 17 that left him with 8lbs of steel total between both legs. He had worked up until beginning of 02 as best he could with all the migraines and back problems from standing most of the day. Finally got to the point that he couldn't work anymore and cost them their home and a car.

There was me, wife, 3 daughters and a son in my home when we packed up his family's stuff and moved them in with us. They have a daughter and a son. We split the girls into two rooms and the boys together then closed off the dining room for my friend and his wife a bedroom. Which got fun because one wall was to my bedroom so their were some loud competitions on occasion...shhhh kids may be reading this..

They lived with us up until we moved down here to Florida for work in summer of 03. We still had/have family up there so we stayed with them in their new place, after he finally got disability and could afford their own place. I hated I couldn't talk them into moving down here with us as I loved them both. He passed away in summer of 06 while we were up there and it ripped a hole in me that still hasn't been filled. Their kids are grown and out on their own, but still come here to visit as well as does she. Infact, I am going up there the 17th of next month to bring her down here for a weeks vacation. They were and are the best friends anyone could ever dream of. They loved us for us and never saw our faults as anything more than part of the people they loved. I miss Kenny as much as I miss my own dad after he passed away. We did everything together, loved, laughed, cried, lived and died because a part of me died with them both.


Some things added that might not have been pertinent, but added so you could hopefully feel what I feel when I think about those who we were lucky enough to share our home with.


I will add that before they moved in with us they were already spending more time at our home than their own. I would come home in the evening and expected them to be there and wondered where they were when they weren't there. That made it very easy to transition into living together full time.
     
    07-25-2013, 04:55 PM
  #6
Weanling
i am so glad it worked out that way for you. I think this was a good lesson for my friend to learn. My sentiments exactly, they should have suspected something, knowing they were kicked out elsewhere, and come to find out, it has happened numerous times.
     
    07-25-2013, 09:34 PM
  #7
Showing
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Originally Posted by cowgirllinda1952    
I started this thread out of curiosity, and wanting to share my experiences, and have others do the same. I have a friend, lets call her Mary. Mary is a good hearted person, and her and her husband allowed his cousin and her family move in. Mary has a travel trailer on their property, and his cousin was down and out after being kicked out of the previous home they were living in (with another family). The cousins husband did have a job, and agreed to pay a portion of the water and light bill, to live there. As soon as they moved in, the mooching and freeloading began. These people did not pay a dime, and Mary had to feed a whole family of 4 plus her own family of 5. She had to furnish them everything from toilet paper to sanitary pads, they had nothing, bought nothing. They were there 3 months, running the a/c with the door open, wasting water, etc. They then began begrudging Mary and her family anything they had or bought, got mad when the ice cream man came, and they didn't buy ice cream for her kids as well, even tho' they were gone at the time. The last straw came, when Mary's husband got a bonus at work, and Mary bought herself $200 worth of clothes. The woman became enraged, screamed that how dare her buy new clothes when their kids were starving and they had no propane!!! Just be warned, that nothing good usually comes from taking in people like this, the more you do for someone, the more they expect. And if someone has already been kicked out of someone else's home, it is most likely because there was a **** good reason. The people packed up and moved out after the fight over Mary buying new clothes, good riddance to bad rubbish!!!
I learned a lesson at a young age from my mother-NEVER let anyone move in with you unless there is a solid plan as to when they are leaving. I've seen it again and again nice people being taken advantage of and its horrible. That's the sad reality about people. You give a finger and they take a whole arm.
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    07-25-2013, 10:51 PM
  #8
Foal
Yup, just had something similar happen to us. We moved hubby's friend, his wife, and his two girls in with us in May. Agreement was they were to pay us $400/month plus the additional amount above of whatever our utilities were prior to them moving in. We also had it set to where we would alternate weeks as far as buying groceries. The month of May went good. But in June is when it started falling apart. The man had his son come visit without asking. They went through TP like it was nothing. Ate tons of food, wasted food. Left bathroom hot water faucet running. (Still don't understand how they could forget to turn it off). Left lights on. They rarely took showers. Wasted tons of ziplock bags because even though I have two cabinets full of tupperware, they were always putting left overs in zip lock bags. The wife, ugh she took it upon herself to put away their dishes and cook ware to where their's and our stuff were mixed. The kids, well they were constantly lying about things and hubby and myself sometimes had to take care of their kids because the parents were too busy playing games on the internet. They started to fall behind on rent in June. This month, they had only paid $100. Said their bank was $700 negative and didn't have the money. However, they were constantly going out to fast food places and buying pops and junk food.
This past weekend, they take a 3 hour trip to out of state to drop his son off. Usually when they go there, they come back before Monday. Monday came and didn't hear a word from them. Hubby called his friend's work to find out if he was alright and was told that his friend had quit a few days ago. Hubby's friend texted him that night to tell us that they had decided to move up to where his son is. So I'm stuck with most of their stuff plus their cat, am out of $525 that they still owe us, and having to deal with the roaches that they brought in. Hubby is pretty upset because this was suppose to be his friend and he's done everything he could to help this guy's family out but instead, we end up getting screwed. It sucks, but another lesson learned.
     
    07-25-2013, 11:31 PM
  #9
Showing
This thread really scares me :(

It's not a secret that I will be moving out on my own, and my friend and her family have so graciously said I can stay with them for a bit while I sort my life out.

To this day even I'm hesitant because I don't want to inconvenience them or mooch off of them or ANYTHING negative at all.. my biggest fear is being stuck without a job and running out of money fast for my horse. I have all these backup plans but still.. it scares me.

I hope I am never like the leaching people in that OP.
     
    07-25-2013, 11:35 PM
  #10
Weanling
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Originally Posted by Skyseternalangel    
This thread really scares me :(

It's not a secret that I will be moving out on my own, and my friend and her family have so graciously said I can stay with them for a bit while I sort my life out.

To this day even I'm hesitant because I don't want to inconvenience them or mooch off of them or ANYTHING negative at all.. my biggest fear is being stuck without a job and running out of money fast for my horse. I have all these backup plans but still.. it scares me.

I hope I am never like the leaching people in that OP.

Just make sure that the expectations on both sides are laid out very clearly and you responsibly hold yours. Just the fact that you have back up plans and are scared tells me you are a stand up person!
     

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