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        07-25-2013, 11:39 PM
      #11
    Weanling
    Typical of people nowadays really. I've had a similar situation where I was living in a 26 foot RV trailer while I was going to university. Cheap pad rental that my parents paid and I paid the utilities....PLUS I didn't need to have room mates. Well until a friend got kicked out of her place( BIG RED WAVING FLAG!!!) and you guessed it the nice person, and sucker, that I was told her she could come and stay with me until she found another place. She drank every night and was loud, made a mess of the trailer daily, didn't pay the utilities like she was supposed to AND then I found out that she was bad mouthing me behind my back. I left on a Friday night for the weekend and told her to be gone when I came back on Sunday. Came back to peace and quiet. I'm careful who I "help out" nowadays as I have let myself be used and taken advantage of in the past by people I thought appreciated it and would do the same for me....however, not so much!!
         
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        07-25-2013, 11:45 PM
      #12
    Yearling
    I had a buddy of mine stay with me for a while. It seems his wife decided she didn't want to be married or be a mom anymore. She just forgot to tell him until she butt dialed him one night when we were at the station and she was hooking up with some dude and his kids were at his MIL without him knowing.. Long story short he pretty much lost everything and she got it all. He stayed with me for about a month until he got some stuff squared away and found a new place. It really wasnt muc of an inconvienience though. I worked 3 jobs at the time so I was never home.
    It was just Andys home for wayward firemen for a while.
    That being said I'm not sure I could do the same thing now. My house is a tad more full know with a wife and 2 kids and 2 dogs and 2 horses.
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        07-25-2013, 11:47 PM
      #13
    Weanling
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    Originally Posted by Fort fireman    
    I had a buddy of mine stay with me for a while. It seems his wife decided she didn't want to be married or be a mom anymore. She just forgot to tell him until she butt dialed him one night when we were at the station and she was hooking up with some dude and his kids were at his MIL without him knowing.. Long story short he pretty much lost everything and she got it all. He stayed with me for about a month until he got some stuff squared away and found a new place. It really wasnt muc of an inconvienience though. I worked 3 jobs at the time so I was never home.
    It was just Andys home for wayward firemen for a while.
    That being said I'm not sure I could do the same thing now. My house is a tad more full know with a wife and 2 kids and 2 dogs and 2 horses.
    OmG that's an awful way to find out what is going on....spineless creature she was...I don't go for that stuff. Break it off and then go about your business.
         
        07-26-2013, 12:06 AM
      #14
    Banned
    I am of the opinion that people deserve a chance, and there are two sides to every story. Of course you risk getting burned if you take that attitude, but it's just the way I am. I am sorry that your friend went through this, but don't let it stop her helping someone who is just down on their luck again.

    But she needs to react faster when they show signs of being useless.
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        07-26-2013, 05:40 AM
      #15
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    Originally Posted by Mochachino    
    Just make sure that the expectations on both sides are laid out very clearly and you responsibly hold yours. Just the fact that you have back up plans and are scared tells me you are a stand up person!

    Yeah after some thinking I feel drafting up some sort of mutual agreement plan would be a good move :)
         
        07-26-2013, 09:59 AM
      #16
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    Fort Fireman. You're co worker's wife didn't suddenly do anything. Whatever was wrong in their marriage he was refusing to see it. The fact that she got another fellow was that she wanted to be treated better and feel loved.
         
        07-26-2013, 11:44 AM
      #17
    Foal
    Awww... yeah you always have to be careful when you have someone else moving in with you.
    We have had a few people in and out at times. All good folks though. Right now we have a room in our house that are far as we are concerned "belongs" to a friend. We just keep reminding him it is his whenever he wants it - which he keeps telling us will probably been the end of the summer. I love it when he lives with us though, he is just part of the family. And drives me crazy that the reason he is insisting on staying put right now is he is recovering from surgery and perfers to heal on his own until he can help pull his own weight around the farm, so we just pop in to check on him reguarly and he comes out whenever he feels up to driving himself or gets his son to drive him over.
    Those type of friends I don't mind helping out. They are more the type Roadyy & his family had living with them. The friends that are as much family as your own family is.
         
        07-26-2013, 11:52 AM
      #18
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    Originally Posted by Saddlebag    
    Fort Fireman. You're co worker's wife didn't suddenly do anything. Whatever was wrong in their marriage he was refusing to see it. The fact that she got another fellow was that she wanted to be treated better and feel loved.
    Um, so it's HIS fault she was a lying, cheating 'ho?

    If you're feeling unloved and not appreciated you get a divorce and THEN start looking. Not drop your drawers and go all wild monkey sex with some random guy while you're still married. Someone who will cheat while they're married will cheat again the next time they're feeling 'unloved and under appreciated'. I hardly think the blame goes to the one NOT cheating.
         
        07-26-2013, 12:32 PM
      #19
    Weanling
    Ha Ha, I thought I would get some good responses to this!!! I know someone else whose grown daughters (2) moved in with them, then without asking, moved their boyfriends in. No one helped out or helped pay anything. One day she had enough, and yelled at everyone to get out, she was not running a *****house!! Everyone was gone that night, and magically had plenty of money to get their own places.
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        07-26-2013, 01:25 PM
      #20
    Yearling
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    Originally Posted by Saddlebag    
    Fort Fireman. You're co worker's wife didn't suddenly do anything. Whatever was wrong in their marriage he was refusing to see it. The fact that she got another fellow was that she wanted to be treated better and feel loved.
    If there are problems, face them or leave. DON'T go out and hook up with random people! I find zero excuse for anything like that from either person in a relationship. I knew this woman , you did not. I felt it was just a matter of time for her from the first time I met her. It was just my gut feeling. My gut has treated me pretty well over the years. It has even kept me alive a couple of times.
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