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post #21 of 26 Old 07-26-2013, 01:13 PM
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Fort Fireman. You're co worker's wife didn't suddenly do anything. Whatever was wrong in their marriage he was refusing to see it. The fact that she got another fellow was that she wanted to be treated better and feel loved.

Do you know her? Or are you assuming a whole lot ?
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post #22 of 26 Old 07-26-2013, 01:32 PM
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I was in a position a few years ago that left me with nowhere to live and my boyfriend's family let me move in with them in new york (from virginia) for a few months. I got a job 3 weeks after moving and only stayed a total of 3 months. They wouldn't let me pay anything during the time I was there as long as I had a job. I always cleaned up after myself and even though I was 19 I still let them know where I was going and what I was doing. As soon as I found a place nearby I moved out. It actually worked out very well. I'm still dating their son and very close with them.

On the flip side, in the time since then i've had some read duds as the renter. The place I moved to after I left them was a huge house. I rented just a room and the landlady didn't want a contract and so I (young and impressionable at 19) trusted her. 650 a month for one bedroom including utilities that I paid on time every month for almost 2 years. She trespassed into my room all the time, threw out some of my stuff, her 40 year old married son harassed me to the point where I had to change my phone number. One january afternoon she barged into my room while I was sleeping raging about her electric bill (from december when she had her christmas lights on all month) and blaming my tiny desk fan I sleep for the outrageous bill. She threw my stuff across the room and tried to kick me out. I worked in the same building as a real estate attorney I knew and went straight to him. His council helped empower me to not take any of her crap anymore and I moved out a couple months later.

this is why getting a written contract is SO important to me. You have to protect your own rights as well as the other party.
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post #23 of 26 Old 07-26-2013, 07:35 PM
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Fort Fireman. You're co worker's wife didn't suddenly do anything. Whatever was wrong in their marriage he was refusing to see it. The fact that she got another fellow was that she wanted to be treated better and feel loved.
This may be one of the most ridiculous things I have read on this board.
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post #24 of 26 Old 07-26-2013, 08:50 PM
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When I was in high school, I had a classmate who was having a lot of trouble. She legally emancipated herself at age 16 because her family wasn't supportive of her at all. She was living with her grandmother and paying rent. However, as a high school student, she couldn't make much money. She was choosing between rent and food pretty often. During senior year, her grandmother was going back to their country of origin for 6 months and wasn't able to keep the apartment. My friend was thinking about dropping out of school so she didn't have to move back in with her mom or dad.

My mom and I talked about it and decided to invite her to live with us. My brother had moved out a few months earlier and we had an extra bedroom. My friend is not the kind of person to accept help and was hesitant to move in. She began staying with us a few days a week and eventually moved in. She lived with us for about a year and we got her off to college.

It wasn't the easiest situation (there were issues with her now-ex), and she didn't follow through with everything she said she would do (cleaning, cooking). However, neither my mom or I will ever regret taking her in. She's brilliant and doing great in college. She would have been a high school drop out had we not helped her.

Obviously, this was a different situation than many others that have been discussed here. But my point is that while these situations can go badly, the benefits to you and others can outweigh the negatives.
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post #25 of 26 Old 07-27-2013, 12:15 AM Thread Starter
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Oh no, I bet here is a whole new topic, trusting your gut keeping you alive. I've cheated death a number of times, because I trusted my gut.
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post #26 of 26 Old 07-27-2013, 12:34 AM
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