Much respect to Jinxremoving for responding with complete and uncensored honesty, providing the much needed, difficult to hear, but honest response.
At 16 a person is barely maturing emotionally and is not prepared to have a child financially, as a result, the parents not only must rely completely on parental of government support but will need to give up every luxury - including both horses, shopping, starbucks - the parents won't have time for those activities anyway.
It's highly unlikely that teenage parents graduate high school, especially the mother, and even more unlikely that either of you will eventually attain a good career as you are severely impaired in both time and financial resources. Most college programs require a time commitment of 40-50 hours per week or more, add working enough to support yourself and the child, then add the time required to actually raise them, and understand the difficulty. That will not only affect the child, but yourself. If you cannot obtain some sort of post secondary education, you will most likely not have a good career with a corresponding wage and will need to work extra hours to compensate. The decreased time available with the child will reflect in the quality of their upbringing.
I can almost guarantee that you will eventually be a single parent. When the father faces the difficulties raising a child so young presents, being human, no matter how committed he may currently seem currently, he'll not be in the picture. If that happens, it will not only be to your detriment, but the childs. Remember, your well being is in a permanently a second now. Not only will you not have the financial, emotional and time support, but the child would not have a father.
I won't state what in my opinion is by far the best option, given it's sensitive nature. I will however, mention that as I type this my good friend, who was adopted by her infertile parents as a baby, sits next to me. She has great parents, a great upbringing and has had quite a successful life. I also have a good friend who at 15 had a child, she adopted her out, we're both in our mid twenties. We've spoken about it a handful of times over the years, she still hurts deep down, but the resounding feeling of happiness that she has wonderful parents that could offer her a better life makes the decision worthwhile.
Best of luck, you face an unbelievably difficult decision.
Last edited by mind; 04-30-2012 at 09:10 AM.