My Mother in Law is the best, really she is wonderful, I love her.
She had her knee replaced a few months ago, and just had the second one done - so I am giving her Thanksgiving off and I am cooking the meal.
Except there's a conflict of interest. I am a Brit, although I live in the US. I am used to crispy/crunchy/ al dente/steamed vegetables (not sure what to call them), my MIL creams everything.
I usually go there really early the morning of the holiday and help her cook the everlasting crap out of the vegetables then cover in cream or cheesy type sauce.
I have asked sister in law to bring desert as she usually brings one single dish of yams, out of a can, covered in brown sugar and marsh mellows. Gagtastic! Then we hear all meal about the traumas she had cooking her one single dish.
Hubby says I should do it my way as I am cooking the meal. I asked my MIL, she is a sweetheart and says she doesn't mind and likes veg a little crunchy, but she's just being nice - she once told a foster kid that she makes her veg 'good and soft'.
Is it acceptable to modern the meal up a little and make the veg taste like the veg they are supposed to be? Or is it a tradition that I shouldn't mess with and I should do it her way?