How to deal with housemates...
I'm really frustrated, and was hoping I could get some advice. It's kind of long, but I would really appreciate any input.
I'm in second year university, and live in a house of 5 girls including myself. Last year, I was in residence (as is the norm at my school) and I met these girls on my floor. The original plan was to live with one of the girls who I really get along with, but when the other 3 asked us to live with them she said yes so I kind of just went along with it. I didn't hate those girls, but we weren't great friends either.
Fast forward a few months and we've finally found a house. There's 2 rooms upstairs (biggest), 2 downstairs (medium) and 1 on the main floor beside the living room/kitchen (smallest). We drew straws for who would get the small room because none of us wanted it, and I didn't lose (yay!). HOWEVER the girl that lost was like "Oh well my dad isn't going to pay our deposit if I don't get the room I want so..." and we all got in a pretty big fight about it. IMO, it's pretty immature to be hiding behind your dad. She drew that room fair and square...but fast forward another couple of months and I'm the one living in it.
Anyways, I'm pretty much over the fact that I'm living in this room, but so many other things have gone wrong in the month and a half that I've been here. All 4 of them smoke. In the house. In the living room specifically, which happens to be beside my room. I have nothing against people that smoke, but when you're living with a non-smoker I think it's really disrespectful. I have asked them not to but they don't really care. Also, they are SO LOUD. I go to bed pretty early (in comparison to them, anyways) and I can never sleep. For some reason they don't have a normal talking voice, they just yell all the time. Finally, when they ask me to do something, if I don't jump up and do it RIGHT AWAY they get all angry and say how I never help and I'm soooo lazy. Like SORRY about to clean all the dishes for you, or get you a cup of water... I'll help, but when you just tell me to do something... No.
I need to get out of this house, but I don't know how. In order to get someone else to take over my room, they have to sign off and agree to it. And I know they won't, they don't want a "random" living with them.
Most of you will probably suggest talking to them, but it doesn't really work out too well. Last time we had a "house meeting" they essentially yelled about how much they hate me and how useless I am because I never clean.
I should have seen the warning signs, and I did a little, but I felt like I didn't have any other choice on who to live with. I never thought it would get this bad.