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post #1 of 8 Old 05-07-2010, 12:21 AM Thread Starter
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Unhappy How do I get over my fears of driving

How do I get over my fear? I was in a severe car accident last November I was in another one a couple weeks ago and well I have seen so many people die from car accidents.
Some close people I know that have died :(
I am so scared but I want my freedom you know? I was thinking of getting my lisense soon because I feel I should.

I may be 20 but I never really felt like driving because I have a fear I have driven severel times in the past to get experience I driven in the country around my neighborhood and in my the parking lot of a school so I know I can do it I just need to learn how to drive on actual roads...

Also my parents won't allow me to simply get out on my own until I have enough experience to drive on my own. Thats how it was with my 17 year old sister 6 months with a permit and 6 more months to a year with her actual lisense.

So what should I do to get over an acutal fear?
Id be driving to and from school. And since my barn is too far away my mom will drive me to it but they also said, to get it for emergancys, they said, If i dont really want to drive i dont have to but I dont always want to rely on them forever.

ugh!! fears suck.

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I used to be absolutely terrified of driving (I didn't even get my license until I was 18, almost 19) and what really helped me was driving to the barn three times a week with one of my parents there. Since it's about 30 minutes from my house to the barn and the roads are city and country, I ended up getting lots of good experience. Usually, I'd just drive out there and my parent would drive home. Once I got the roads memorized and knew exactly what I needed to do at each place in the road, I started feeling way more comfortable with driving in general. And since I wanted to go see Lacey and I knew I wouldn't see her if I didn't drive, I got over my fear pretty quickly. HahaNow, I've had my license for about 9 months and I spend about an hour driving everyday and it doesn't scare me at all anymore.

It also helps that I drive a giant van that scares people into not being dumb around me, and I feel impervious to danger in it since the other people would be annihilated and I'd be fine. haha

Good luck! I totally know where you're coming from.

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I am sorry, I wish that I could speak some insightful words and help you out but unfortunately, I don't know a way to help as I have never been there. I just wanted to show you some support and encouragement and I hope you find a way to manage your fear. (((HUGS)))

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I wasn't seriously injured from the car accident but I could have been because of the way the car hit the side. Luckily it wasn't anyone else but me and Tyler.
But it killed his car :( So we both have to rely on his parents and my parents to see eachother since hes an hr away :(

Hes having a hard time finding a job to get a new car because as soon as he gets a car his Grandparents agreed to lend him money to buy a new car and he have to pay them back.
I just hope it all happends soon.

I want to get ovver my fear I won't be able to drive myself to the barn without my mother or Dad until I am comfortable driving and my parents are ready to let me out on my own.
I feel I could drive myself to-from school and to-from places around thats not to far.
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I am sorry, I wish that I could speak some insightful words and help you out but unfortunately, I don't know a way to help as I have never been there. I just wanted to show you some support and encouragement and I hope you find a way to manage your fear. (((HUGS)))
Thank-you. Its ok! The accident I was in with Tyler last November just scared me even more then after one of my sisters good friends died from being killed by an 18 wheeler :(
It was the most horrible story ever
He was driving and the driver turned clipped his truck and flipped them 10 times leaving Shane dead and the little 8 year old brother with no scratches at all.

His family was driving right behind him so they saw the ENTIRE thing. :(
I can't say that I have been there because the accident I was in wasn't that horrible but it did scare me.

Luckily Tyler was not careing about the car he came to my side of the car got me out and took me to the side of the road and was trying to calm me down because I was crying.
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The best thing you can do is just drive, drive, drive. Have a knowledgeable driver with you to help you see things you may miss. When I first got my license I thought I was a fine enough driver. Now, almost 1.5 years later I realize how wrong I was. Lucky for me, nothing bad happened because of my inexperience (well, no injuries at least.. but that's a story for another time!) There will come a time when you realize "hey, I am actually a good driver now." and it will feel wonderful!
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Yea I am gonna make sure one of my parents are in the car with me.
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The idea about having someone else with you in the car sounds good.

Could you start with small roads? Some quiet, secluded roads and then move on bigger roads when you've gained some self-confidence?

I don't know if that helps any, but when you start to drive more your skills will increase and you'll learn to predict also other drivers. Of course it doesn't help every time but accidents are possible but it can still prevent some accidents. You learn to notice traffic and iffy drivers around you and can react these in good time.

Good luck! I'm sure you'll do it when you've found your inner strength.

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