Have you ever dealt with something like major depressive disorder? I mean like an actual illness, not being in a bad mood once in a while. Because what I just quoted is probably the worst thing you could possibly say to someone who has. The amount of guilt you already feel about everything you have ever done wrong, regardless of how much you can control it, is crushing and to have someone tell you to just "get over themselves" causes even more guilt because you just CAN'T. It makes you feel like something is even more wrong with you because everyone else is just so happy and you're not and you can't physically just turn on a light bulb.
Particularly if you've reached the apathy stage. This is a horse forum, so I will use them as an example: We all love them, but it's awful when you are so apathetic that you just think, "Why bother going to do anything with them? I could just sell them and save myself a lot of money, really.."
I wondered if there might be some comment on this. I didn't explain my answer to that question very well, but it was too late to edit by the time I had time to correct the post.
Yes I have dealt with major depression, as a result of another major illness. As a stated at the top of that post, this is the answer to that question that I came up with for myself
I can see where you're coming from on this, so I'll try to explain a little bit:
The title of the thread asks us how we as individuals
handle stress, depression etc. The OP does not ask us for our advice as to what they should do about their own issues. I answered the questions with that in mind.
When I say "get over yourself", I am not stating that I think anyone's particular feelings or issues lack validity. I am not minimizing the issue and I am not ignoring it. Using "get over yourself" as my personal motto (as it later became) became an empowerment tool that I used to take control of my depression, stress and anxiety because it reminded me on a continual basis that I DO have the choice to make change and that only I can make that change. No one else was going to do it for me. Not that it wasn't hard as heck to make those changes. I literally had to get over myself. I had to acknowledge the fact that no one was going to make me better, especially if I chose not to pursue medication or prefessional help. For me, it was the realization that I'm a part of a bigger picture. That's where "get over yourself" comes from.
So, to address your statement about saying "get over yourself" to someone suffering from depression: Would I ever do that? Heck no. In my opinion, when it comes to depression, those words aren't for anyone to say to you but you. I was simply stating what helped me.