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post #11 of 50 Old 10-22-2013, 12:05 AM
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Oh and hipsters! They threaten to release my inner serial killer with their trendy fake glasses and faux-intellectual-artyness. I do however have a few friends that are hipsters (I did go do design school after all). And I haven't killed them yet

I try and keep my prejudices in check - but of course I have preferences. I'd likely never date a pink and sparkly type of girl, but I do have plenty of American friends and really don't notice their accent or am bothered by it. I just avoid buying audiobooks where the narrator is American (unless it's an obviously American story) or watching American-accented fantasy films. Which I think is a reasonable exercise of my prejudices.
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post #12 of 50 Old 10-22-2013, 12:26 AM
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One of the things I don't get about hipsters is the BPR. That is bait shop beer at the county lake where I am from. Also there are different American accents, what don't you like.
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Oh and hipsters! They threaten to release my inner serial killer with their trendy fake glasses and faux-intellectual-artyness. I do however have a few friends that are hipsters (I did go do design school after all). And I haven't killed them yet

I try and keep my prejudices in check - but of course I have preferences. I'd likely never date a pink and sparkly type of girl, but I do have plenty of American friends and really don't notice their accent or am bothered by it. I just avoid buying audiobooks where the narrator is American (unless it's an obviously American story) or watching American-accented fantasy films. Which I think is a reasonable exercise of my prejudices.
Come to America, there are no American accents here.
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post #14 of 50 Old 10-22-2013, 01:43 AM
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Tattoos! I'm taking a stab at your hang-up, OP, just for fun... I'm riddled with ink and I'm good peeps. Raised upper crust, married red neck... I can roll easily on both sides, though I can get prickly when pressed. ;p

I, myself, cannot tolerate The Perpetual Victim. My inner bully just rages against its cage, even while I give a crack at showing through example, taking your own life by the balls and making it happen, usually with no effect.

The Old School Ignorant really blows my top, too... Especially the ones who want to poke at my "enlightened" and progressive perspective. I never liked preachers and I'm not going to argue with a limestone pebble.

I tend to wait with skepticism for certain individuals to blow stereotypes to bits, and too often am rewarded with societal validation. Is it wrong to want to throw a party when I do encounter a person who does..? How about a simple "Kudos, Man!" Or clap on the back?
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post #15 of 50 Old 10-22-2013, 01:45 AM
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One of the things I don't get about hipsters is the BPR. That is bait shop beer at the county lake where I am from. Also there are different American accents, what don't you like.
I don't dislike all American accents - I quite like Eastern Seaboard accents, but not a fan of Interior accents, and am indifferent to a Midwest accent except maybe ones closer to the Canadian border, which I also don't mind. But still won't tolerate any accent where it doesn't fit the context - I can't listen to an American accent in high fantasy, just doesn't work, but at the same time, I wouldn't want a BBC English accent narrating a good cowboy yarn! But even where there is no cultural/language context, I'd rather listen to an English accent (of the BBC sort) as it is less distracting and easier for me to understand.

I can be seduced in five minutes by a Jamaican or Scottish accent - this is a problem of a whole other kind

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I am not prejudice.

I am equally horrible to everyone.
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post #17 of 50 Old 10-22-2013, 05:30 AM
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Everyone has prejudices, and while I think we can work towards dealing with them, we can't just "wish them away". So why we might not be able to control what we think and feel, we can control how we act. If you don't want to be a victim of your prejudices you can choose to associate with these people, even if it makes you uncomfortable. Chances are, like all things, it will get better with time and experience.

I guess, for me, trying to find out what the root of my concerns are, what aspects make me feel the way I do, helps me to deal with it.
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post #18 of 50 Old 10-22-2013, 06:36 AM
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I can be seduced in five minutes by a Jamaican or Scottish accent - this is a problem of a whole other kind
Oh yes, a Scottish accent for me too (as long as it isn't from Glasgow as they can be hard to follow).

I think we all have prejudices but they can just as easily be described as things we like and don't like about people until we get to know them, and that is the difference, these things shouldn't stop you getting to know the people before pigeon holing them into the "dislike" slot. I have been know to struggle with very posh public school accents, but if the people are lovely you soon don't hear / see the things that grate.
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Since this prejudice comes into play with riding, I have to wonder....is it a true prejudice or something you'd just rather not deal with on the trails?

For example, I won't ride with a coward. If someone is scared of their horse and just clearly not having a good time but insisting they are....they can find someone else to ride with. They may be perfectly nice to talk to in the barn but I will not deal with freak outs on the trail.

Does said prejudice come into play in non-riding situations? Does it color your other interactions and dealings? If it doesn't then I'm not sure it's a prejudice as much as it is a ridig preference.
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post #20 of 50 Old 10-22-2013, 09:33 AM
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I can get along with just about anyone. I have to. I work with the public. It doesn't mean I want to hang out with them after work.
I can totally understand not wanting to ride with some people. There are some folks who are just dangerous and out of control on their horse and others who need you to constantly babysit them. If you just want to get away from it all and relax, I can see why you would prefer to ride alone.
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