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post #1 of 10 Old 05-16-2010, 09:29 PM Thread Starter
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How to handle a delicate situation?

I have a question I want to pose to you all.

My across the street neighbor is great. Aside from being a very good neighbor, she has also become a good friend. She's not home much (she's a truck driver) and while she is gone I keep an eye on her place, feed her barn cats, etc, keep her lawn mowed, you know, general neighborly stuff. She has fixed my tractor, helped me carry heavy stuff, taken me out to dinner, brought back goodies for myself and my son on her trips, helped out with other various things around the property. I want to be able to continue to have a good friendship with her.

The problem is, her dogs, or particularly one of her dogs. She has three of them, but the other two don't bother me. She doesn't have a fence on her property, her dogs run loose when she is home. Today the "bad" one came across the street, chased my chickens, chased my barn cat and terrified her so bad I've brought her indoors for a while. My other barn cat has been missing since my neighbor got home the other day, and I fear the worst. I know the dog isn't just a "chaser". She was outside today getting rid of the bodies of a woodchuck and a possum the dog had killed in the past couple nights. I have no issue with a dog pest hunting - my dogs will too. But if that dog is coming on MY property and killing/bothering MY animals I have a huge problem with it. I have tried to mention it in a kinder, casual way to my neighbor before, and she has said things like "yeah, he's stupid" and "if you ever see him on your property, shoot him with a BB gun, that's how I trained my other dogs to stay away from the road".

Sorry, but aside from the fact I that I am not going to shoot her freaking dog, even with just a BB gun, that sentiment essentially makes her dog MY problem. And I take a lot of exception to that - my own dogs are my problem, and I manage them just fine. Her dog, she needs to fix this issue. I'm not going to carry a BB gun around with me whenever I'm outside just in case her dog decides to cross the street. But I am really not sure how I can press home to her how big of a deal it is without upsetting her, or losing the good relationship I have with her.

But I'm very, very upset about my missing barn cat, too. I don't know if her dog got it and can't make any accusation, but I just have a very bad feeling about it.

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post #2 of 10 Old 05-16-2010, 09:49 PM
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My neighbor down the street just bought something like this since her next door neighbor has multiple small, nasty, biting dogs that run loose. She built a birdhouse to "hide" it.

Maybe putting something like this in the very front of your property facing outwards (so it won't affect your animals) could solve the problem?

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post #3 of 10 Old 05-17-2010, 02:40 AM
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Just tell her the problem. Ask her if she can keep him contained and tell her you are worried about your cats. I'm sure she will understand.
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post #4 of 10 Old 05-17-2010, 09:28 AM
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Go to her and explain what happened. She is obligated to control her animals. You are being a good neighbor/friend by giving her the chance to correct the problem. Of course, she may not see it that way, but that is on her, not you.
I've been in your position, and it STINKS in a big way. It did strain relations with our neighbor for a time, but we have since reconciled.
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post #5 of 10 Old 05-17-2010, 11:44 AM Thread Starter
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Thanks, everyone, for your thoughts. Unfortunately, I HAVE tried to talk about it to her, which is when she suggested I shoot her dog with a BB gun if he crosses the road :roll:. I might look into the repeller Delfina posted, I'm just concerned about it affecting my own animals. I have always intended to chain link the front part of my property with remote gates for the driveways, just haven't had the budget to do that this year. Maybe I'll have to move that up on the priority list. It's just very, very frustrating - I get that some "country people" have different feelings about their animals than I do, but still, it shouldn't be my responsibility to have to do something about HER dog. Bleh.

I know there is a way to use google earth to get exact measurements of a large section of your property - I don't know how to do this though, anyone know how? I really don't want to stand out on my road frontage with a measuring tape and try to get an accurate measurement by myself *lol*

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Just tell her the problem. Ask her if she can keep him contained and tell her you are worried about your cats. I'm sure she will understand.
I agree with that as the first step, even you say you've talked with her earlier. Just bring up what you've told here, like that you don't want shoot her dog with BB gun etc. Don't go accusative, just tell that you don't feel the current situation is alright and that you'd really appreciate if she could do something with it.

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Originally Posted by Indyhorse View Post
Thanks, everyone, for your thoughts. Unfortunately, I HAVE tried to talk about it to her, which is when she suggested I shoot her dog with a BB gun if he crosses the road :roll:.
I would approach her again. Flat out - the truth. What happens if a human is petting your cat the next time the dog decides to take off after it?

They way I see it - If she doesn't care that you shoot the dog, perhaps she is simply hoping someone else takes care of her problem.
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post #8 of 10 Old 05-17-2010, 04:32 PM
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It sounds like you guys have a really great relationship. I would just bring it up. Maybe next time you guys are working together or you see her over the fence, mention it to her. Just be friendly and see if she can fix the situation.

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Tell her directly that her dog is a dink and you think it may have come onto your property and killed your cat. I hate admitting to it but I have zero tolerance for people's animals harassing mine. I had a little Shih Tzu come up and latch onto my dogs throat. I picked it up by the scruff and threw it over the fence into it's yard. I've also laid a crop into a few dogs that had made the habit of chasing my horse while I am riding. I am a huge animal lover but when it comes to my safety and the safety of my animals I get pretty mean.

Im assuming animal control doesn't come out your way? If they do I wouldn't hesitate to call if her dog keeps coming over.

(I sound like such a bully but I had such issues with every freaking person on my road and off leash dogs. My dog actually behaves himself, both on and off lead. I expect if you want the same privledges yours to do the same.)
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post #10 of 10 Old 05-22-2010, 07:18 AM
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Just tell her the problem. Ask her if she can keep him contained and tell her you are worried about your cats. I'm sure she will understand.
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Agree :) Be nice and straight up don't step around the outside of this. Good luck.

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