Originally Posted by ls6firebird
both my parents are useless drug addicst and have been since I was little. Dad is in prison for the rest of his life for drugs. And I stop by my mom's house 2-3 times a week to make sure she's still alive. I literally can't remember the last time I saw her not completely strung out. For most of my life growing up, this kinda stuff was all I knew.
They may have good intentions, but they will lie, cheat, and steal to get what they "need." if he's still having withdrawals, like said above, he's either still using or he needs to be an in-patient somewhere. It really says a lot about you to want to help him out. Be there for encouragement and someone he can talk to. But you are not going to be able to help get him clean. He needs professionals, and even they'll have their work cut out for him. If he's in your home, hide anything valuable. And addict will steal from their mother when they get desparate. They can be so close to being sober and all it takes is one tiny slip and theyre right back where they were.
Its great that you want to help, but use caution because anyone around is at risk. Its sad, but its not worth putting yourself and your family in a situation like that. Maybe im a little harsh on this part from it affecting my life from day one even tho I've never touched any of it. But theres really no excuse for it. I've had a rough life growing up poor white trash and never fell into it. And theres people that have had it a whole lot worse and never got involved in drugs.
Bottom line is they made a choice and its up to them to get clean. By all means, offer encouragement and support. But be very careful not to get too deep with it. An addict going thru withdrawals that decides they absolutely need a fix is one of the scariest things you'll see
Is6firebird you have a right to be angry.
As a mental health professional I have seen addictions tear families apart and end in death .
You are right to warn the OP of how addicts can be manipulative. I hope that the OP heeds your warning.
Your anger concerns me and I hope that you reach out to someone in order to find peace.
Forgiveness is not about the person one forgives. It is about finding peace and hope for the person who has been treated unfairly.
You are a brave person to disclose your family problems inorder to prevent the hurt someone may feel due to the actions of others.
My hope for you is that you find the strength to heal and to forgive.
My thoughts and prayers are for you and the OP. Shalom Donald