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post #11 of 22 Old 07-09-2012, 11:16 AM
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How old are you? As we get older we can get more anxious. Have you seen a doctor? If it is as serious as you imply I would see one.
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post #12 of 22 Old 07-09-2012, 08:08 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks for the responses and well wishes. They are appreciated.

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How old are you? As we get older we can get more anxious. Have you seen a doctor? If it is as serious as you imply I would see one.
I'm 21. I saw a doctor for anxiety when I was a teen. Honestly, I wouldn't mind seeing a counselor but I am wary with some doctors... especially the ones around here who prescribe pills like candy (which is what happened when I was younger). I see myself as a functional adult, just one who worries more than necessary!
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Thanks for the responses and well wishes. They are appreciated.



I'm 21. I saw a doctor for anxiety when I was a teen. Honestly, I wouldn't mind seeing a counselor but I am wary with some doctors... especially the ones around here who prescribe pills like candy (which is what happened when I was younger). I see myself as a functional adult, just one who worries more than necessary!
I took some anti anxiety pills for just a short time after a friend committed suicide. It did make me feel much better and I just took them short term. Something may help you get over the hump and may help get it under control so you don't spiral down as you get older. I personally think worrying and anxiety are different. I am a worrier ( it is more in my mind) but when I feel anxious I think it is more in my body and more troublesome.
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I am exactly the same as you at 19. I can not go anywhere or do anything without worrying about something or finding something to worry about. I'm pretty sure I have some sort of anxiety disorder, especially social anxiety as I often find myself crying for no reason whenever I try to talk to someone I don't know. Especially older people.
I never went to a doctor for it though because I don't believe in stuffing myself with pills for problems like that. I have enough pills to take anyway with the physical diseases I have.
So here's what I have done in the past that works really well.

Find your stress reliever, everyone has one and it could be so simple you don't even realize it. Anxiety brings on stress and stress will cause health problems.
My personal stress reliever is aroma therapy. I love to light a scented candle and sit down to read a book or just relax and watch some TV. If I'm out and about I always have a scented chapstick with me. Chapstick is perfect because I can easily smell it and it won't bother other people I might come into contact with. Many people are allergic to perfume so I avoid wearing that.
The key tip is to make sure whatever your stress reliever is, is that it is healthy. You can go very wrong using alcohol, drugs, or even food as your stress reliever. I would google some good ways to relieve stress and find something that fits you.

Secondly find a hobby that's geared for relaxation if you don't already have one. I knit, read, and write for my unwind time hobbies. I'm learning how to cross-stitch over the next few weeks as well. You can find some very affordable hobbies. Cross-stitch, knitting, and crochet are especially nice because you can take them anywhere. Small projects are very easy to stick in a purse for some stress relief on the go. It's great if you're like me and enjoy spending time outdoors as you can always go to the park with your project.

Thirdly make sure you have a good sleeping schedule. Schedule is key to relieve worrying and stress, and if you have a pretty hectic daily lifestyle it will do wonders for you to have a regular sleeping schedule. Take some time out of the day to relax, unwind, and gear up for bed time. Maybe take a hot bath before bed or read your favorite magazine. A regular nigh-time routine is an excellent way for you to stay at the top of your game. If you have trouble sleeping like I sometimes do, be sure to look up some good tips for getting a good night's sleep.

Another good thing to do is maintain a healthy diet. It is so hard for people now a days to keep on top of their game when it comes to good eating, but you will be so much the better for it if you at least try and eat a little better. I know I for one am no saint. I am such a picky eater. I like almost zero vegetables and am very guilty when it comes to indulging in junk food. I have been getting better however and have noticed a big change in myself. I feel good, sleep well, and feel more active during the day.

Just a few tips I've found helps with myself. Another good thing you can do is write down everything you're worried about at the end of the day, or if you have someone you trust to share your worries with go ahead and do that.
Google will be your friend here, search some good ways to relieve stress and some good home remedies for relief from anxiety.

Hope I could be of some help.
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post #15 of 22 Old 07-09-2012, 11:16 PM
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Houston as a mental health professional I strongly recommend that you seek medical help.
Get a diagnosis and counseling if needed.
Change causes stress so what you are feeling is normal if you have just moved but it does sound very obsessive.
Until you understand the problem you cannot solve it.
If you are in Texas and need assistance with paying for medical visits or medication dial 211. This is the texas assistance hot line and they can direct you to local organizations that can help you with low cost or free medical visits or medication. Good luck Shalom
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post #16 of 22 Old 07-09-2012, 11:43 PM
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Are we twins?!

I am the same EXACT way and it's getting worse...especially since I got horses again...

I will literally have stupid things running through my mind for hours like worrying about what I said to people, if I gave the right horses there supplements, the biggest one is I obsess over 'did I lock the horses gate?' or the supplement thing...

It's bad so I feel your pain. I think my boyfriend wants to strangle me sometimes because whenever I have these 'moments' I make him re-check the gate over and over or check on whatever is bothering me and I'm obsessing over..

I feel you.
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post #17 of 22 Old 07-10-2012, 04:12 AM
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You know.. maybe it's normal. Cause there cannot be this many people with "anxiety" issues.. we just care. Granted it may be more than we should.. but better than not at all!
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I know exactly how you feel. Seeing a counsellor doesn't mean you're getting into something, it can be very helpful. However, if you don't think it's for you or you want to try something else, then there is lots of things that can help, it's just finding one that works for you. First off, as someone else mentioned, diet and sleep are so important, nothing can make you feel worse than the up-down crash of sugar-heavy diets or a lack of rest. Exercise REALLY helps me, whether that's riding, running, dancing, gym, anything. I also like to have a lot of things to occupy my mind, at the minute I'm getting stuck into drawing. I like to talk to close friends about things as well, a problem shared is a problem halved. Just be careful you don't become dependent on other peoples' opinions too much, which I can tend to do. I have considered anxiety meds before, but I think if you can try and alter your mindset and use more natural methods then they are better, but if things do get really bad then definitely go to a doctor. I hope this helped, google as much info. On anxiety coping as you can, and good luck.

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Moving away from an area you're comfortable with can be very stressful. Anxiety is a very logical way for it to come out. Just remember, there are things you can control and thing that you cannot. No sense in worrying about the latter since there's nothing you can do about those. Find something other than horses to do to give your mind a break. Garden, clean your house, walk dogs, go for a bike ride, just get out and do something. Find little things you can control. Eventually you will start to feel a sense of normalcy in your new area. If you want a good lesson in perspective, go to a meeting for people who suffer from anxiety. They're problems will probably seem so huge, you'll go home laughing at your over-active mind!

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post #20 of 22 Old 07-11-2012, 09:33 AM
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You know.. maybe it's normal. Cause there cannot be this many people with "anxiety" issues.. we just care. Granted it may be more than we should.. but better than not at all!
I agree. I think there are a lot of people who have anxiety about things and are sensitive. However, most people find a way to handle it or move through it. But of you are at a point where you are looking for help online, then to me that is a first sign that maybe it is not just a normal "worrying" issue and getting some help would be a good idea.

I was a very worrisome child. I worried I was not good enough. I worried what people thought of me. I know a lot of people are like that, but many learn to move past it. For those who don't, they can end up compounding that issue over time. I never worked it out or sought help. Now I am a 35 yo mother of 2 whose anxieties I had when I was 15 are not just still there but 20 years more are added to it. A few months ago I ended up in the ER because of it.

I think you are right, many many people have this problem and it is completely normal. But it's ones ability to deal (or not deal) with it that is the issue.
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