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        07-12-2012, 10:05 AM
      #11
    Green Broke
    I'd love a horse float! I'd even give people lifts with it! But then I would need a car to pull it, and start getting more than $200 a week to afford to buy both! I'm okay with bribing friends :) But seriously, I keep my horse at a private farm and only one/two other people there ride, and not that regularly, and they both have floats. I do talk to them when I see them. I'd love to live in such a horsey place like you with tack auctions! Actually probably not...I've been to one tack auction ever and I bought a useless saddle!

    I grew up in a place with about 400,000, and have lived in bigger places since then, so this seems much smaller, especially with the next large city being 6 hours away.

    But I am going to try your ideas. There is apparently an adult dressage club, I don't know what they'll think of my little stocky pony with all their warmbloods, but I might give it a go.
         
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        07-12-2012, 10:23 AM
      #12
    Weanling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Saskia    
    I'd love a horse float! I'd even give people lifts with it! But then I would need a car to pull it, and start getting more than $200 a week to afford to buy both! I'm okay with bribing friends :) But seriously, I keep my horse at a private farm and only one/two other people there ride, and not that regularly, and they both have floats. I do talk to them when I see them. I'd love to live in such a horsey place like you with tack auctions! Actually probably not...I've been to one tack auction ever and I bought a useless saddle!

    I grew up in a place with about 400,000, and have lived in bigger places since then, so this seems much smaller, especially with the next large city being 6 hours away.

    But I am going to try your ideas. There is apparently an adult dressage club, I don't know what they'll think of my little stocky pony with all their warmbloods, but I might give it a go.
    Oh I bet you'll be surprised about "all" those warmbloods..lol
    Go for it! Don't hesitate or it will become one of those things that just hang out in the things I want to do list ;)
         
        07-13-2012, 12:42 AM
      #13
    Trained
    I have few "outside interest" other than horses. The conversation w horse crowds that I have dealt w has almost always been - to the point. I have noticed that the general population often makes statements that are extremely easy to interpret as just that, "mere statements", when in fact they are meant as some sort of "opening" for others to say "oh, I like to do 'x', too...we should get together and do 'x'". If that makes any sense at all. It often sails right passed me...so it isn't necessarily easy to "catch" for everyone.

    You might consider "listening harder" for such opportunities to get to know someone better, and making the effort if you want to make new friends. Just a thought.
         
        07-13-2012, 03:56 PM
      #14
    Foal
    I think I have one person I would call a friend and even then we only see each other a couple times a year and we live maybe 40 miles from each other.

    This I think is my problem. I used to be open and welcoming to people, but in the last few years we had my best friend at the time move her family from another state to live here. In our house. It was supposed to be for a few weeks and that turned into 2 years. Things did not end well, they owe us thousands of dollars for rent they never paid, bills they didn't help with, food they wasted, and the list goes on.

    The reason we let them stay for as long as we did; they have a kid and we couldn't turn a kid out. That changed though and they were shown the door.

    I just don't want to be bothered with the drama and crap other people bring with them and I'm sure they don't want to be bothered with mine. I just flat don't like to have people around me most of the time.

    Online is different, I can walk away when I'm done. That works for me. ****, I'm a misanthropic old cow... LOL.
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        07-13-2012, 04:58 PM
      #15
    Trained
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by possumhollow    
    I think I have one person I would call a friend and even then we only see each other a couple times a year and we live maybe 40 miles from each other.

    This I think is my problem. I used to be open and welcoming to people, but in the last few years we had my best friend at the time move her family from another state to live here. In our house. It was supposed to be for a few weeks and that turned into 2 years. Things did not end well, they owe us thousands of dollars for rent they never paid, bills they didn't help with, food they wasted, and the list goes on.

    The reason we let them stay for as long as we did; they have a kid and we couldn't turn a kid out. That changed though and they were shown the door.

    I just don't want to be bothered with the drama and crap other people bring with them and I'm sure they don't want to be bothered with mine. I just flat don't like to have people around me most of the time.

    Online is different, I can walk away when I'm done. That works for me. ****, I'm a misanthropic old cow... LOL.
    Wow, that's awful! Almost spooky! I am like you - I enjoy my "own space". It is fun to do get togethers, have visitors, or what-not, but I wouldn't want to make it "permanent" ... uh uh. I'd love to live w my horse, though (i.e., in the house)...she wouldn't use the bathroom in the morning, though.
         
        07-13-2012, 09:42 PM
      #16
    Green Broke
    To have a friend you have to be a friend.

    Don't take things to seriously. Learn to forgive, and forget. Listen instead of talking and think before you speak. Love yourself but love others more.

    Don't argue with idiots. Realize you don't always have to be right.

    Like who you are, and others will like you too.
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        07-14-2012, 01:04 AM
      #17
    Green Broke
    Maybe I'm just not good with people.
         
        07-14-2012, 01:07 AM
      #18
    Showing
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Saskia    
    Maybe I'm just not good with people.
    Oh I doubt that!
         

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