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how to stop calls

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#1 ·
This isn't about telemarketers but so called friends. Actually arm's length friends, two of them. One calls daily about 3-4, the other around 8 pm. We don't do things together, and really have nothing to discuss. What I don't get is their lack of thought that they might be tying up my time. Avoiding the calls doesn't always work if expecting a call from someone else. Any good ideas on how to stop these calls. Their excuse, both of them, is that they are checking up on me, as tho it's an act of kindness.
 
#2 ·
Stop answering the calls? Maybe they'll get the hint if you never answer?

Or if you have a friend with you of the opposite sex, have them answer your phone for you and act like this person has the wrong phone number because they just got a new cell phone.

Or straight up tell them to stop calling you. You are busy and have things to do.
 
#3 ·
One: Do you have caller ID on your phone? 2: Is this on your home phone, or cell phone? If you have caller ID, don't answer and let it go to voice mail.
Both phone systems give you the option to block calls. Just block them, and don't worry about whether it's rude or not. They are being rude by calling you without considering that your time is valuable.
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#6 ·
I don't understand why people in general have a hard time just telling other people the truth. Just tell them: you're not a big phone talker, you don't know what to talk about; you appreciate that they are checking up on you, but you are fine and a phone call once a week is more than enough.

I never hedge, never lie - I just choose my words carefully and make my point.
 
#7 · (Edited)
When I stopped answering the 8pm calls, she called the police to check up on me. Another time she called a neighbor to come see. My truck was home as I'd been picked up and we'd gone for coffee. Neighbor entered my home looking for me because the truck was here and I wasn't answering the door. Sometimes we need someone else to kick us a kick in the pants to provide a little impetus to do something. Thanks. I don't know where both get the idea they need to check up on me as I've never called either one asking for help.
 
#12 ·
I'm a little baffled here. Perhaps the laws are different in your area. But I would presume that the person who entered your home without your permission is facing criminal charges? If not, why not? In the US The progression goes from trespassing, criminal trespass, unlawful entry, to breaking and entering. Punishment if charges are pressed and the person found guilty range from misdemeanor fines to jail time. But nothing happens unless the aggrieved party presses charges.

Same with the phone calls. In most places in North America there are laws on the books against harassment and stalking.
 
#14 ·
Shoot I wanted a place to vent about my newest and most annoying scam call interaction. (We think your identity has been stolen, but we need your SS# to be sure. Seriously it happened today.)

I've had a couple of people who do that, eventually I just had to tell them to stop, and when they didn't I blocked them. But I do have caller ID.

I don't like telling people to leave me alone because I feel maybe they are lonely and just want a little human interaction, but when they would call up to 6 times per day it got to be a bit much.

If you don't want to completely cut them off, and that's totally up to you, you could suggest a certain day and time when they could call because that's when you have a little 'free time' to talk. But you'd have to let them know you're too busy any other time. I've done this with some of my friends as well or I never would have gotten through my college studies, LOL.
 
#16 ·
budley95, I've got to assume rural Ontario is much like rural New Hampshire. Cell phones have no service until you get into a larger town. Just an old fashioned landline phone. House phones that can text are expensive if the phone company software and lines can even support it. Mine wouldn't. I've got 1960's tech going on here.

I do have a cheap, walmart caller ID that is separate from the phone. I actually love it because it's big enough to see without my glasses and also says the # out loud.

I do have neighbors that will check on me if the truck hasn't moved in a few days. It's not a constant thing so I find it flattering that somebody might care enough to look out for me.

Strangers don't enter my house because my dogs are huge.

You are just going to have to tell them like it is. An occasional call is nice, keeping your eye out for an older neighbor is nice but don't do it so often that it's harassment.

I'm actually appreciative of most of my neighbors. I've even had them stop on the road and wait for a nod from me if there is a stranger talking to me in the driveway. Nice not invasive.

I'd still be just as dead if I broke my leg in the pasture in winter but at least I've got a shot.

Just tell them. Checking every few days is nice. More than that is an annoyance.
 
#21 ·
No, the 3pm one is a horse owner but she's always complaining about something. The 8pm doesn't have a life so tells me the same crap every day. The machine answered so she hung up. Darn, just remembered, she's one of few with my cell number. It's now shut off.
 
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