Originally Posted by kait18
RED GATE FARM
I know he has to go where the jobs are it sucks!!! Its just we don't do well with communicating via phone, skype, or any of that... we both feel weird when we do. Its hard to explain.
How long have you two been together? How serious is the relationship?
Over 2 years and he has already popped the marriage question. We are in a long engagment!!! :)
Is there a possibility of you relocating to Texas as well? I would relocate bc its supposedly horse country :) but not anytime soon
How long does his new job last? Is it a one year deal? Two year? And the job is indefintie. Its up to him!!!
How do ppl get that feeling of being there for someone when they are not literally there... that's what is bugging me I think
There are ways of keeping that long distance relationship going.
Ask a military wife
From what you've told me, it's serious and you really want to work on making this work. If you're both committed, then TRUST is a big issue. You have to trust each other, and listen to each other (not to well-meaning friends who whisper doubts into your ears).
It's best if you both can get together physically on a regular basis. You NEED the hugs and kisses!
Try writing. Yes, old fashioned writing. I can't tell you how thrilled I was to receive letters from my first husband when he was away on ships (in the navy). This was something he actually touched
! It might sound corny, but you think of those things. You write back, and send little thoughtful things, things you did, day to day things. This way it's like you two are right there, experiencing stuff together.
Cards, notes, sending flowers, little gifts. Every time something comes in the mail, you'll get that feeling again. It doesn't have to be expensive either.
I remember getting one letter from my husband, and when I opened it up, dozens of red hearts EXPLODED out of the letter! He had spent an evening cutting up those hearts and stuffing them into the letter. As he cut up each one, he smiled and thought of the surprise I'd get.
Trust, Romance, thoughful gestures.
That is how we did it.