I was in your same position, althought I was 19. I called my parents from MEPS...not the greatest plan I ever had but it's what I had to do.
You know what is right for you. My mom was and still is the hardest sell ever. She'll never approve of it but she tries and I know she is proud of me :)
I would have a serious sit down discussion with them about it - tell them your plans, what job your are going to do, why you are proud to do it, and how this will have a positive effect on your life. I wish you the best - it will be an amazing journey.
Did you really? How did your parents react to that? I've never done something this disobediant in my life, but otherwise I'll never be able to accomplish my goals.
I have tried to have serious sitdowns with them. They won't listen. Well, my father does, but my mom gets very....upset.
There's no reason why you can't be in the Navy and still get your college degree.
In fact they will probably encourage you to continue your education.
I think your mother is probably worried because you will be growing up and leaving.
IMO-by the way you are handling this, she has good reason to worry.
Put away your ego and temper, sit down with them one night, and calmly discuss your decision with them. Let them know that this isn't just a whim, and that you've carefully thought this out from all angles.
Their your parents, they may not like it, but they will deal with it.
Well, my goal was to try my best to get a degree that pertained to my job field while in the Navy.
Like I've said above and on the original post, I can't. I have tried to sit down with them. I can try and try and try, but my mom won't listen to me.
Since your dad will listen, maybe tell him what your planning on doing so atleast someone knows where you will be (the whole safety thing) and then he can talk with your mother. I hate playing dad against mom, but if she won't listen to you, maybe she will listen to him? She needs to understand that your not 5 years old anymore and that your growing up to be an independent young woman with dreams of your own.
Can you write her a letter and really go into detail on how you feel and how she makes you feel that you won't accept what your really want to do. Leave it on the counter for her to find before you leave? Maybe guilt tripping her will help? LoL, I don't know...I'm fortunate to have parents that would love to kick me out of the house. LMAO!
I could try, but I see him running and telling my mom. Then all hell breaks loose.
The letter idea is really good. I might try that. Thanks.
Well, faceman is right, it would be far wiser to join after you get a degree. But if you are absolutely determined to join now you should tell your parents - here is why: imho, recruiters are not necessarily looking out for your best interest. At least find someone that has served for a while that can help you examine what the recruiter has told you, what he can actually truthfully promise you, and what is possible, and what is highly probable. You can avoid a lot of this "unknown" if you get a degree.
I've talked to quite a few people that are either currently serving or have served. My recruiter is pretty honest. Of course, he sheds a positive light on some things, but he knows I'm going to stick with him either way, and he's about to be on his way back to a ship before the new recruiter comes in, so he usually will answer my questions pretty truthfully.