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post #1 of 14 Old 11-15-2009, 11:14 AM Thread Starter
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I did it! (Rave and mini rant)

Went to work tonight and after over hearing what my boss really thought of all but one of us female dancers it really didn't make me want to come back. So I quit.
He basically said we were all a sorry excuse for dancers, worried and complained too much, and didn't pull our own weight...there were only 5 of us so I'm not sure what his rant was about because he desperately needs dancers. I see it this way though. I drive an hour to work every night and dance my butt off. I don't mind the exercise but at times I have to deal with the worst customers as do other dancers and it's just not worth an hour drive. Especially after basically being called a worthless dancer.
I explained to him that I knew 3 other girls would be leaving in the next couple weeks and I didn't have it in me to stick around and leave with the rest of them. I told him I didn't want to bother with the drive only to come back with less than gas money and I didn't want to deal with his constant mood shifts every day all night. I was very polite and calm about this and asked for my dancers license and any material that had my social security and personal information on it.

He on the other hand called me to my face a "piece of .... dancer" and proceeded to yell at me. He pushed (not hard but enough) me out the door into one of our male dancers who caught me from falling and then went back inside. I text-ed the dancers I knew and let them know what happened and what I had heard. Overall the outcome was not at all what I was expecting and rather disappointing that it ended in that way. However I am not at all upset about leaving when I did, in fact I should have left probably a couple weeks ago.

My plan now is to take the rest of the year off for family and my animals and next year I'll be going back to school during the day and dancing at a local very popular club I danced at 3 years ago and they're still running clean and strong. Meanwhile handing in applications everywhere like I am right now for salary jobs so I can hang up my stilettos and only use a pole for my normal work out instead of work.

Overall I feel good. I'm exhausted though, mentally and physically. If the weather is in a good mood today I think I'll take Caleigh on a walk and take my doggies to the park.


Ps: if this should go in the Saloon please move it. I felt it was an overall job type thing so if I'm wrong I'm sorry.

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post #2 of 14 Old 11-15-2009, 11:56 AM
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Well, I say good for you for standing up for what you believe is right. There are many times I bite my tongue and don't say things and kinda put up with it where I work ....(mostly with managment ) but I work in a totally different field so sounds like you did the right thing.

No way that anyone should tolerate anyone pushing them out the door , def. Out of line IMO

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Good for you

Good for you, you should be proud of yourself for having taken all that on and seeing yourself as the bigger person in this scenario. Obviously not an easy situation and very happy to hear you walked out with pride because that was the right thing to do. I'm a strong believe in Karma and I have no doubt in my mind you will find something that will boost up everything in your life even more than how they are now.

It take a lot of courage to do what you did and I hope you're really proud with yourself.

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post #4 of 14 Old 11-15-2009, 12:32 PM
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Good for you!

It's always nice when you can smile, walk away and say "I'm definitely the bigger person here."
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I'm sorry for that. Obviosly you were proud of your work there, at least I caught it so when I read your posts.

The good part is that you don't need to stay 'a worthless dancer' anymore. You obviously have some great plans, so go for them.

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I heard stories from other dancers

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No way that anyone should tolerate anyone pushing them out the door , def. Out of line IMO
There was a male dancer recentness that everyone loved and the week I wasn't there apparently he came into the dressing room, fired him and slammed him into a locker. No reason either that I've heard. This place has really gone down hill in the last month and fast so I figured it's time to get out.

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Good for you, you should be proud of yourself for having taken all that on and seeing yourself as the bigger person in this scenario. Obviously not an easy situation and very happy to hear you walked out with pride because that was the right thing to do. I'm a strong believe in Karma and I have no doubt in my mind you will find something that will boost up everything in your life even more than how they are now.

It take a lot of courage to do what you did and I hope you're really proud with yourself.

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I am very proud of myself. It did scare me a bit when he pushed me though because he's a big guy and honestly I didn't know what he was capable of because he absolutely blew up. Even the male dancers there that night were wide eyed so nobody was expecting it. They knew I was going to quit though and said do it now, tonight so I did.

Funny thing about Karma. I called a former dancer, she quit a month or so ago because she couldn't stand his mood shifts and unlike me yelled at him before storming out. She said her fathers friend is a cop and they've been sending in undercover for almost a month now so it's good I go out now.

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I'm sorry for that. Obviosly you were proud of your work there, at least I caught it so when I read your posts.

The good part is that you don't need to stay 'a worthless dancer' anymore. You obviously have some great plans, so go for them.
and I absolutely don't mind it as a job BUT I don't like to look at it as a job. The way things had been for the past 2 weeks or so it was only a job and I used the male dancer nights as my free nights where I could dance and it was just fun. I don't like dancing when I know I have to do it in order to pay this or that and it became only that.

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is there a way to quote everybody at once?

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Good for you.

Yes at the bottom right besides the quote button ( " ) click on that
For the ones you want to reply to. Then click the reply button on the
Bottom left. All the ones you clicked (") on will show up in your reply
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Parts back so there are no spaces between the quote brackets.

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