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        02-03-2009, 10:02 AM
    I have gotten alot better about that myself. A close freind and mentor of mine made me realise a few things about it. Like, if I spend my whole life worrying about something, then come to the end of my life, how silly will I feel sitting in a nursing home, knowing I spent ALLLL that time worrying about something that never happened. If it is going to happen, it is going to happen and there is no amount of worry that will change that. It is ok to plan ahead, be prepared, but worry robs you of focusing on the joys of the now, because you are focused on tryin to control a future that hasn't even happened yet. Instead of the time spent in useless worry, spend it contemplating deep thoughts, find new ways of expression, bake cookies anything other than worry.

    Here is one of my favorite stories to show that.

    3900 Saturdays

    The older I get, the more I enjoy Saturday mornings. Perhaps it's the quiet solitude that comes with being the first to rise, or maybe it's the unbounded joy of not having to be at work. Either way, the first few hours of a Saturday morning are most enjoyable.

    A few weeks ago, I was shuffling toward the garage with a steaming cup of coffee in one hand and the morning paper in the other. What began as a typical Saturday morning turned into one of those lessons that life seems to hand you from time to time. Let me tell you about it:

    I turned the dial up into the phone portion of the band on my ham radio in order to listen to a Saturday morning swap net. Along the way, I c ame across an older sounding chap, with a tremendous signal and a golden voice. You know the kind; he sounded like he should be in the broadcasting business. He was telling whom-ever he was talking with something about "a thousand marbles." I was intrigued and stopped to listen to what he had to say

    "Well, Tom, it sure sounds like you're busy with your job. I'm sure they pay you well but it's a shame you have to be away from home and your family so much. Hard to believe a young fellow should have to work sixty or seventy hours a week to make ends meet. It's too bad you missed your daughter's "dance recital" he continued. "Let me tell you something that has helped me keep my own priorities." And that's when he began to explain his theory of a "thousand marbles."

    "You see, I sat down one day and did a little arithmetic. The average person lives about seventy-five years. I know, some live more and some live less, but on average, folks live about seventy-five years.

    "Now then, I multiplied 75 times 52 and I came up with 3900, which is the number of Saturdays that the average person has in their entire lifetime. Now, stick with me, Tom, I'm getting to the important part..

    It took me until I was fifty-five years old to think about all this in any detail", he went on, "and by that time I had lived through over twenty-eight hundred Saturdays." "I got to thinking that if I lived to be seventy-five, I only had about a thousand of them left to enjoy. So I went to a toy store and bought every single marble they had. I ended up having to visit three toy stores to round up 1000 marbles. I took them home and put them inside a large, clear plastic container right here in the shack next to my gear."

    "Every Saturday since then, I have taken one marble out and thrown it away. I found that by watching the marbles diminish, I focused more on the really important things in life.

    is nothing like watching your time here on this earth run out to help get your priorities straight."

    "Now let me tell you one last thing before I sign-off with you and take my lovely wife out for breakfast. This morning, I took the very last marble out of the container. I figure that if I make it until next Saturday then I have been given a little extra time. And the one thing we can all use is a little more time."

    "It was nice to meet you Tom, I hope you spend more time with your family, and I hope to meet you again here on the band. This is a 75 Year old Man, K9NZQ, clear and going QRT, good morning!"

    You could have heard a pin drop on the band when this fellow signed off. I guess he gave us all a lot to think about. I had planned to work on the antenna that morning, and then I was going to meet up with a few hams to work on the next club newsletter.

    Instead, I went upstairs and woke my wife up with a kiss. "C'mon honey, I'm taking you and the kids to breakfast." "What brought this on?" she asked with a smile. "Oh, nothing special, it's just been a long time since we spent a Saturday together with the kids. And hey, can we stop at a toy store while we're out? I need to buy some marbles.

    So don't waste your marbles on worrying.
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        02-03-2009, 10:58 AM
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    That was a wonderful story, DC .
        02-03-2009, 05:36 PM
    When I was younger I went through a bad patch. After a brush with cancer that forced me to have a hysterectomy shortly after we got married. It left us childless and me depressed. I started writing in a journal and at the beginning of every day I had to start out listing something to be grateful for. After awhile it got tougher and tougher to find something to write. I think it forced me to see the little almost unnoticed things that we can be grateful for, not just the big obvious stuff.
    The amazing part is, the grateful stuff lasts forever. The stuff that makes us worry and doubt is fleeting and usually soon forgotten about.
    I think my "grateful list" is one of the many things that help me be happy in the now. Your welcome to try it
        02-04-2009, 01:37 PM
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    Vida you sound like an amazing person. I think insight often times comes from facing terrible situations and having to willfully decide to go on. That has been true for me. A number of years ago I had to face my own mortality, since that day, every day I have been here has been appreciated because by rights I should not have been here. I really treasure friends and family and don't get caught up (to badly) in the material traps in this world.

    As someone I value once said to me, "how you face the difficulties in life, define you as a person." I choose to live in the now, and not get to wrapped up in the future.
        02-04-2009, 06:11 PM
    I just LOVE that idea, I am going to start one tomorrow. Why wait for a bad patch? Mine would be really long right now, tho. Topping the list would be the health and happiness of my family.

        02-05-2009, 10:08 AM
    Sure thing DarkChylde Maybe you aught to split that up into 2 days, health one day happiness the next. After about a year of finding stuff to be grateful for without repeating, you'll wish you had paced yourself
        02-05-2009, 04:58 PM
    Good point!

    Pacing myself wasn't one of my good points, but I'm getting better.....

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