Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: An English Girl living in beautiful Alberta, Canada
• Horses: 0
I'm going to give my honest thoughts here. They are meant to be helpful, and to give you food for thought. I will not mind at all if you tell me if I am wrong.
One of the fundamental things about love, attraction, and desire - particularly in the early years (the wild romance years) is that a person has a physical desire to touch their partner, and be touched by them.
You've just told us that you only get intimate with him after you've had a few drinks. This makes me wonder whether you're in a relationship that you would rather was platonic, and you're just doing the physical stuff to keep him happy?
You can't "just get over it". That would be a lie to yourself and him. But I do think you need to be even more honest with him and yourself about what "it" is.
How do you cope in social situations where greeting hugs and kisses occur?
When he touches you, you should feel warmed, supported, loved, or cared for. Do you? Or are you feeling negative thoughts?
When I was suffering from severe Post Natal Depression I didn't want to be touched at all either. I'm most certainly not suggesting that you are suffering from Depression - but I am saying that having been there, I know what it's like, and I know now that it's not right.
Get up, get going, seize the day. Enjoy the sunshine, the rain, cloudy days, snowstorms, and thunder. Getting on your horse is always worth the effort.