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post #1 of 37 Old 12-04-2007, 12:02 AM Thread Starter
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i just need a chat...

hi guys

i got some bad news today. my mum hasnt been well for a while but her normal doctor couldnt figure out what was wrong :roll: so she visited a specialist last week and got her results back yesterday and it turns out she has bowel cancer :(

this has rocked me so much. my dad only died 8 months ago from skin cancer and now my mum has cancer too. even though im a strong person, i dont know how im going to deal with this. my dads death still hurts so much but my mum was still there for me which provides some level of comfort. i dont know what ill do if my mum dies too :(

my dad was sick for five years and it was five years of agony for him and for us and even though we were devastated when he died, everything else was over. no more radiation therapy, no more operations, no more watching him slowly get sicker and sicker, no more morphine drips...i cant stand to see my mum go through it as well :(

im sorry this is a depressing post, i just needed to chat with others who i know always manage to say something to make you feel a little better.

thanks for listening

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post #2 of 37 Old 12-04-2007, 02:46 AM
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Aww Jazzy, I'm so so sorry. I know what its like to lose a dad, my dad died about 15years ago, when I was 18, and theres still not a day that goes by where as I dont think of him or miss him.
I'm sorry I dont know a great deal about bowel cancer, has the doctor given any advice to treatment etc?
My heart goes out to you Jazzy ((BIG HUGS)). Please PM me anytime you need a chat.
I'll be thinking of you and your family. xx
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post #3 of 37 Old 12-04-2007, 04:59 AM Thread Starter
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Aww Jazzy, I'm so so sorry. I know what its like to lose a dad, my dad died about 15years ago, when I was 18, and theres still not a day that goes by where as I dont think of him or miss him.
I'm sorry I dont know a great deal about bowel cancer, has the doctor given any advice to treatment etc?
My heart goes out to you Jazzy ((BIG HUGS)). Please PM me anytime you need a chat.
I'll be thinking of you and your family. xx
aaaww thanks meggy. we went know more ourselves until after the MRI tomorrow. the doc has said at this stage, unless it has spread anywhere else, that he should be able to remove it. before surgery though, they are going to do a course of radiation that will last 6 weeks. but then when my dad was first diagnosed they said he would be ok too so you never know what to believe :(

thanks again for you support meggy. its like my little extended family on here :)

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post #4 of 37 Old 12-04-2007, 01:08 PM
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Keep us posted wont you? And try to think positive. I'll be thinking of you. ((BIG HUGS))
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post #5 of 37 Old 12-04-2007, 05:33 PM Thread Starter
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i keep telling myself to be positive too :) i guess its just harder with my dads death so recent still.

i will definitely keep you posted on whats happening. it helps to talk in here where i dont have everyone else crying and being as upset as me :)

thanks again meggy *hugs back* :)

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post #6 of 37 Old 12-04-2007, 08:25 PM
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When it rains it really does hurricane doesn't it? I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. I will think good thoughts that the tests come back with better news and the cancer can be removed safely. Its a good thing they figured out what it was sooner rather than later.
What is it about moms, we never think something bad will happen to them, at least I don't. Mine is in Florida right now, so I don't see her as often as I would like but we have daily chats on the computer. I don't even think of her not being there someday and can't even think of her as being "old".
Please keep us informed and our thoughts will be with you and your family.


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post #7 of 37 Old 12-04-2007, 10:08 PM Thread Starter
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When it rains it really does hurricane doesn't it? I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. I will think good thoughts that the tests come back with better news and the cancer can be removed safely. Its a good thing they figured out what it was sooner rather than later.
What is it about moms, we never think something bad will happen to them, at least I don't. Mine is in Florida right now, so I don't see her as often as I would like but we have daily chats on the computer. I don't even think of her not being there someday and can't even think of her as being "old".
Please keep us informed and our thoughts will be with you and your family.
we are all hoping for it all being able to be removed. IF it hasnt spread the doc reckons he can get it all in an op but if it has spread the news isnt as good :( we get the results of todays MRI next friday. its going to feel like forever until then

its very true. i never even thought about a time when my mum wouldnt be here. she always has been here and i guess i took it for granted that she always would be here.

i dont get to see her as much as i would like either. she lives about 2500kms away. thats the other thing that makes me sad. when dad was sick he had mum there with him all the time and now mum is sick she has no one. well, she has people there but they are all old like her and its a 1 1/2 hour travel to the city for treatment. then theres my aunty who would be with her but she has just finished chemo herself and is still not well :( i hate cancer!! its getting everyone i love.

thanks vida :)

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post #8 of 37 Old 12-05-2007, 02:26 AM
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it sounds real bad, have you checked yourself for cancer yet? I know when my aunt had cancer everyone in the family had to check...not sure why though? I thought it wasn't hereditary....must be especially because my mom and her were twins....

I'm so sorry, I miss my Aunt who passed away from this every day. I was really close to her, and the last thing I said to her...I grunted...I was DUMB! oh gosh.....I still visit her often and tell her how much I love her! I tell her everything thats going on, or at least try too.....

I hope all goes well for you, and hope that technology has increased in the last five years...since my aunt had lung cancer.

My prayers are with you and everyone else dealing with cancer.
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post #9 of 37 Old 12-05-2007, 02:49 AM
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So sorry to hear about your mom Jazzyrider . Hopefully her MRI will come with some good news.Try to think positive as meggymoo said and remember that there is always a welcoming face waiting for you in the paddock that will be more than happy to lend you a shoulder or neck and will listen to whatever you tell him and of course the horse forum is here for you to jazzyrider. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
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post #10 of 37 Old 12-07-2007, 05:55 AM
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Any news yet Jazzy or is it next friday for the results?


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