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This will be long and confusing to follow but hopefully you can. So my mom was a barn manager at a local barn, living there. My uncle rented a house down the road, he started dating a woman this year who we all knew before. She has her own apartment, but will be evicted soon since she was fired from her last job 6 months ago and hadn't worked at all. The house my uncle is renting was for sale. My mom wanted away from the barn so she applied for a loan for that house (uncle couldn't buy it). Uncles GF decided to apply for the BM position and got it. The position requires a mobile home of your own. My mom moved hers to her new property as she wanted me to rent it from her. And there is a place for one ( it's a big place). Uncle and GF got a trailer given to them, it was in bad shape. They gutted the whole entire thing down to the bare framed walls. This was all a month ago.
Currently, my uncle and his gf are still living in the house my mom is buying. My mom and step dad are living in their trailer with no electricity or water (needs new lines ran), they go to a reality to shower. And uncles trailer is still not livable. Hardly any drywall up, can still see through it. The GF idk what she does all day but she waits until uncle gets home to clean the stalls, doesn't work on the trailer at all. Really there's not much to do at that barn but feed/water/clean stalls daily. He works 6 days a week. The barn is her only job. They are mad because people are complaining they haven't moved in yet. My landlord is giving me to next week to move. I have no where to go, I currently live with my husband and son. We took my moms offer to save money, now we're stuck. So I'm venting because I'm furious anymore, and stressed.
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#2 ·
Only one mention of a horse...?

This might be a good time to talk to god lol..
I'm so sorry you feel like that.. at least if you move into the trailer you can work with that horse. For your son and respect for the law you probably can't do that, though.
Defiantly think you and your hubby need to look for a serving job asap. Move in with your parents, I'd say. Or maybe you have a friend.. but one of you has to work a full time job
 
#5 ·
Forgive me if I'm not making sense, I have an awful migraine right now so not feeling 100%, lol.

Your mum has moved her (old) trailer to her new property that she is in the process of buying? But your uncle/his girlfriend are still living in their old house (your mum's new house)? Not sure what laws your state has, but is there any way that since she is buying the house that your uncle/his girlfriend can be "kicked out" and into their unfinished trailer on the barn's property? I get that that's her family, but something's gotta give and if I were your mother I'd be kicking them out ASAP whether they had somewhere to go or not in all honesty. She owns the house now, or is in the process of owning, wouldn't they technically be considered "squaters" depending on your state laws?

I'd do everything possible to get them out of there. They don't own the house. When does your mother take possession of the house legally?
 
#8 ·
Agree. The owner doesn't change until closing.

The house owner is the one that has to kick out the 'renters' (uncle & co.).
The owner also was stupid for letting another person bring a trailer onto the land before the place is officially sold as technically there are now 2 sets of squatters & if the sale falls through they are stuck with a place they can't even show to prospective buyers. It doesn't matter if the potential new owners are related to the current renters or not, it's up to the property owner to clear this mess up.
 
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Things get very messy with family involved.

Does your uncle have a lease and has he been requested to leave by the previous owners? If the house is still settling it isn't your mothers yet. I assume you have asked him to leave and he has made excuses. I'd advise your mother send him a notice to vacate with respect to whatever your local tenancy laws are. If she already has I'd send a reminder via registered mail with a final date and then look at your options for actually evicting him.

You also need to deal with your own situation. Perhaps either look for temporary housing with a short lease or reconsider your plans.

It sucks how this is happening. My mum is always talking about wanting to do things that involve family, like a shared property or going through their contacts or renting or something. I always tell her no, nothing is messier than family.
 
#7 ·
Right now, I cannot think of one situation where family sharing schemes work out. On the other hand, unfortunately, I can give you a few stories of those types of deals that ended unpleasantly.

I think you have limited options:

1) Confront your Mom to get her to take immediate action;

2) Find any other temporary accommodation to tide you over until you can find something permanent (and make sure that place isn't so big that you can bring family members to stay there).

Boots has phrased it well -- find a peaceful place and way to enjoy your life.
 
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