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        04-28-2010, 05:35 PM
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    I'm Sorry, Horse Forum

    Yesterday I went overboard with 3 posts, all because I wasn't having as
    Good a day. I got them all removed, and even got one that I said
    Sorry for being rude, that I was concerned, and I hope it worked
    Out for the best on.
    I also got an infraction. This was while I
    Was gone sleeping, and last night when I went off, I wrote a whole
    Hing I was going to post here, apologizing. I will post it here, not
    That anyone would really care, but here goes nothing:
    __________________________________________________ ______
    Dear Horseforum,I am so sorry that my
    Last few posts have been rude. You could say I haven't had the
    Best few days. I am sincerely going to try and fix this, because I
    Realized there was a difference between stating my opinion and
    Protecting it at most costs. After some thinking, I have decided to
    Just state my opinion and leave it at that, while trying to still help
    The person whose thread I'm posting on.

    I've been pretty good up until the lat 3 days, where some people's threads just irked me, and when simply stating my opinion, I got bashed and replied to rudely. That's kinda what started me being rude on some other threads, I guess. I am super sorry for this.Some of my words have
    Been taken out of context then made fun of by everyone, like the
    Pecking order one.All I ask is that people be nice in return, and be
    Helplful with my posts and everyone elses posts, to understand
    Hat some people have more experience than others, and to
    Remember to always post advice/nicer comments, -if
    Available- when you critique something, even if it really doesn't
    Have anything to add.I could call this "the Horse Forum Reform",
    But IDK.
    Lately, I've noticed a lot of "violence" on
    Here, with people posting sarcastically and over-critically. I am
    Guilty of that, but I'm not the only one. I just went along with
    It.Again, I'm sorry, and am willing to make this all better if you
    Guys really try to, too. What do you say?
    __________________________________________________ ____
    That's what I wrote last night, before I got
    In trouble. I was planning to post that and send it to many people,
    To apologize. I guess it's late, but everything in it is true for.What I wrote last night was just when I was thinking about it, and started feeling guilty, because I wouldn't like to be treated the way some of us have been treating others. So, I'm sorry, if I insulted you recently or months ago. Just know that I can be brutally honest, and in some threads when they go on forever and start getting out of hand or annoying to me, I may post rudely. I am going to try not to anymore,though.
    - Caity ( thunderhooves)
         
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        04-28-2010, 05:49 PM
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    Quote:
    Originally Posted by thunderhooves    
    .All I ask is that people be nice in return, and be
    Helplful with my posts and everyone elses posts, to understand
    Hat some people have more experience than others, and to
    Remember to always post advice/nicer comments, -if
    Available- when you critique something, even if it really doesn't
    Have anything to add.I could call this "the Horse Forum Reform",
    But IDK.
    Lately, I've noticed a lot of "violence" on
    Here, with people posting sarcastically and over-critically. I am
    Guilty of that, but I'm not the only one. I just went along with
    It.Again, I'm sorry, and am willing to make this all better if you
    Guys really try to, too. What do you say?
    Perhaps it's time for us to regroup..?
         
        04-28-2010, 07:59 PM
      #3
    Trained
    Kudos for posting Caity!
    You've never offended me (I think we have a lot of the same view point's, though!) and I think we've both in a few "touchy" threads together.
    Sometimes I'm rude without meaning to be, sometimes I'm rude because I need to be.
    I myself have learned not to take things at heart, but sometimes I think people forget that opinions are just that - Opinions. Someone doesn't like you or your horse, oh well. It's not the end of the world. Pull up those big girl pants and move on. As long as someone isn't flogging the post until it's a bloody pulp.

    Anyhow, good on ya for the apology! :)
         
        04-28-2010, 08:22 PM
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    I second WSArabians! Props to you for posting this!

    I think it really shows growing maturity and helps you grow as a person when you are able to see how you were wrong and apologize. So many people are missing the ability to see where they could have been wrong and that's just sad. I'm very impressed, to say the least.

    Sometimes, you just hafta move on and not post. I know that happens to me all the time, I'll write out a long post full of snark and just let the OP have it, but then, as I proofread, I realize that I'm not helping the OP learn, I'm just helping them dig their heels in.
    In my head, I remind myself of Bible-beaters. I can't remember if you identify yourself as a Christian, but even if you don't, this might make sense to you. There are"Christians" who go around telling others that they WILL go to hell if they don't repent, and then there are others who let people know about their beliefs but they don't beat anyone with them. I know more athiests who became athiests in response to the bible-beater type "Christians" and I don't know any who became that way because of Christians who were trying to be a Godly example to the world, without Bible-beating. That's just the analogy I use for myself. I'm trying to be one of the "showing Christ through my life" type Christians so I try to keep that same idea with the forum. I want to show people how to treat their horses through how I talk about Lacey and the help I can share with them, and I don't want to push them away by telling them they are wrong (even when I feel/know they are SO wrong). And, sometimes, I just walk away completely. It's a sign of maturity to know your limits and not push yourself because you might be able to handle it. :)

    Sorry for the huge post. I'm a true storyteller. Hahaha

    Once again: good for you!
         
        04-28-2010, 08:46 PM
      #5
    Green Broke
    Good for you on posting this, TH. We've all had bad days, and I know for my own part there's been times I've been sharper than strictly necessary, or too blunt without thinking of others feelings, and regretted it later. It's possible to be honest while still being considerate, and I think it's big of you to come on here and apologize and acknowledge your actions. Make sure to read the post JDI started a while back, and linked to - it's a very, very good thread and remembering it has stopped me from descending into "verbal slaying" a more than a few times recently. **hugs to you**
         
        04-28-2010, 09:08 PM
      #6
    Green Broke
    We all have bad days, and good days. I guess it's how we handle them that we need to keep watch on, me included. I don't recall anything from you as hitting me as offensive, but maybe I haven't read any of those threads ha ha...wasn't on much last night or today.

    But as I sit here having a really BAD day myself, you have reminded me to double think what I say, especially right now. And I thank you for doing that :)
         
        04-28-2010, 09:13 PM
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    We all have bad days, Caity. We all feel snippy at times. You haven't said anything that offended me, but then again, I'm not easily offended LOL. It is very mature and courageous of you to post this. ((HUGS)) I hope you start having better days.
         

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