Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Ontario, Canada
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I'm...Stuck. Please Help!
I've recently come to a really tough spot, and am in desperate need of advice. Since I was about 5 years old, the only career path I ever wanted to follow was to be a large animal veterinarian. My parents have always supported that, and done everything they could to encourage me to follow that "dream". Now, in my last couple years of high school, when the time is pivotal in making choices that will shape the rest of your life, I'm having second thoughts.
I HATE math. Hate it. And the only science that really interests me is biology. I do not want a career in math, and if you want a job in science, well...the two kind of go hand in hand. Unfortunately, math, science, law, engineering (all the subjects I have little interest in) are the jobs that make the money. Just as long as I've wanted to be a vet, I've always loved writing and English and language, and I'm thinking I'd probably enjoy a writing sort of career (author, editor, something along those lines) more than being a vet. I also was thinking of apprenticing to a trainer or something, and getting a job in horses. But horses and writing don't make money-math, science and technology do.
My parents never told me what I had to do for a living, but they were always firm about one thing: I was getting a job that makes money. I understand that they just want me to do well and be happy and have a good life, but...why does a good life have to be the product of something I don't enjoy doing?
My friends are telling me to "Just do what you like. It's better to like what you do than make a ton of money" and one friend in particular suggested: "Do what you like-don't choose one career yet. Just do a bit of everything, and eventually you'll find something you like." Which is a good idea-the only problem is that my dad isn't a judge; we don't have an infinite amount of money to spend and waste on university schooling, or to support me when I'm 25 without any real job. In my family, I'm more expected to go to choose what I want to do, go to school (and pay for at least half of it myself), and then get a job after. There's not a lot of money to throw around as I'm making up my mind-if I go to school, it's going to be the real deal.
So I'm getting advice from two different ends of the spectrum. There's my mom, telling me that I need to get a well-paying job (so basically a doctor, or vet, or something science-y), and then there's my friends, telling me to do what I enjoy (so a career in literature, or horses). I'm really confused, and stressed. What should I do?! Any advice will be much appreciated.