The main thing about treating addiction is that the addict must desire change in his life. Complete change. They must make a clean break from most of the people they know, the way they think, and their enviroment.
One alcoholic put it very well " you must change the faces and the places around you".
I agree completely...but that is my underlying point.
That is the second time you have alluded to that, and (at least to me) you are contradicting yourself. It takes strength of character to do what you have mentioned above. Only those with that strength of character will succeed. Yet you have stated elsewhere repeatedly that character is not an issue. To list the reasons it takes to become permanently sober, all of which are character issues, and then to turn around and say character is not an issue, is contradictory.
Your counseling should, or at least I assume it should, have the same objective as the business counseling I have done with women, minorities, and vets...not to teach or preach, but to function as a stimulus to help our clients discover, release, and enhancere their strength of character - to not only understand the opportunities available to them, but to bring the desire to be accepted and to succeed that we all have deep within us to the surface and to draw upon that character to abandon their former train of thought and put forth the effort to achieve whatever goals they may have.
The whole shooting match revolves around character and inner strength. Without the desire to become sober and the inner strength of character to achieve it an alcoholic cannot and never will recover...