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post #1 of 6 Old 10-10-2010, 12:53 AM Thread Starter
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Just not fair....just gotta rant

I know that life isn't fair and I should'nt be jealous etc. But it always depressed me when I see people with really nice horses, nice tack, and getting to show, and take lessons. I know alot of people have mommy and daddys help and some people are just lucky I guess. But I don't get help and have little support, and it always depresses me that I couldn't do better and afford to do the things that I would love to do. I mean how do people afford to fork out 15,000 + dollar horses and all the nice tack etc. I try so hard not to judge anyone. I just want to have a better attitude about everything. Its so discouraging for me and how hard I have to work to have a horse and all the stuff that comes with one when I see soo many people who never have to work and get everything they want. (people from my old barn etc.)

How can I make things better/easier.
Tips on how others overcome the same feelings.
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post #2 of 6 Old 10-10-2010, 01:10 AM
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I know exactly how you feel.
I got my horse for free and I try and spend as much time I can fixing things recycling old things to make something better so I don't have to buy something new.
My horse isn't perfect my tack is probably 3rd hand now, but then I think I can learn so much more then people that have 'perfect' horses, I get so much more out of being with them then someone that doesnt spend tiime with them.
I was talking to a guy at my school who pays someone else to do everything he only rides the horse, I was like but its fun and you get to spend time with your horse, he answer was nahh a lot easier this way

It does annoy me but the biggest thing is anything little Buzz achieves it's a milestone because we did it together :)
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post #3 of 6 Old 10-10-2010, 01:33 AM
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The only way you will make things better is to learn to appreciate what YOU have. Stop looking at what everyone else has. I can guarantee you that there are things those people want too.

Find the joy in spending time with your horse. Find it in doing things for your horse, whether that be anything from cleaning up tack to fixing fences.

None of my horses have cost me more than $1000. I have fences made out of recycled wire. Occasionally a fence post falls down and I have to get out there and fix it up.

You will never completely enjoy your horse if you spend all your time looking at what others have. And if you can't enjoy having a horse what is the point? Don't think about what you DON'T have, think only about what you DO have!

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post #4 of 6 Old 10-10-2010, 05:04 AM
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If, by some miracle, you'd get the 15k $ tomorrow, you would notice in same moment that there are people who can fork out 30k. And then 50k. And so on.

My advice?
Turn your eyes from the rich to the poor.

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post #5 of 6 Old 10-10-2010, 05:09 AM
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Life isn't always fair.

I always had cheaper horses, and my current horse I got last week for free. The other day I bought a $20 bridle, and its sort of sad to see those $400 bridles. Its easy to say people have it worse than you do (they do of course) but the reality is different. Just because you know kids are starving in Africa doesn't make you feel better about what you don't have. I know that.

I'm 20 now and its strange. Looking back at the kids who went to Pony Club with me and such, many of those "rich kids" don't have horses anymore. I'm sure there are many "rich kids" who love horses, but in my experience many of them are born into a horsey family, and have nice horses, but it isn't really their passion. Then you look at the ones with the cheap horses and they're still riding. You probably have a driving passion which so many people lack - and its a good thing to have. You're learning everyday, you're making do. You are becoming adaptable and experienced.

I used to think I was pretty hard done by - I had a horse so I was lucky but I used to see all these people with horses that cost small fortunes, trucks and cars and goosenecks, lovely leather saddles etc. and I used to feel left out. I went back to my home town a couple of months ago and met up with this girl I was friends with at school. She used to come to events and help me, and I used to let her ride my horse.

Anyway she told me how much she had enjoyed coming out with me and brushing the horse, riding, caring for it. She said it had been a highlight of her childhood. She had always wanted a horse and her parents wouldn't even give her lessons. I realised that sure I didn't have everything, and my horse was a bit useless, but at least I had something.

Right now I am keeping my "free" horse at a friends property. They have absolutely lovely horses, brand new Kieffer saddles, practically everything. I feel pretty shabby with my Standardbred and Wintec saddle but I'm happy that I have him, and he might never be as good as their horses, but he's mine. I can make of him what I please.

There are always going to be people wealthier than you and poorer than you. Its something you just have to swallow and move on with.

But when you look back, its not the things you had that you remember, its they experiences, the things learned, the things you thought were beautiful.

There will always be people with more and people with less. You have to be happy in yourself.
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post #6 of 6 Old 10-10-2010, 12:44 PM Thread Starter
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I love and appriciate my horse and horses in the past. I drive to do my best with what I got. I well try my hardest to look at the things I do have.
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