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post #1 of 9 Old 08-11-2010, 01:58 PM Thread Starter
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Just venting

I'm just venting here, so eel free not to read this. I have no where else to vent that I feel I can truly let go.
My equestrian coach is a very friendly person, she's smiley and happy, and helpful to everyone on the team. She just seems to not like me very much. She's not outright mean, just unfriendly.
Freshman year: I had a rescue horse, who i pretty much brought back from the dead, he was a congress champion in 1994, and he could do anything. A lot of girls on the team had it better than me because they have the parent who knows all the horse stuff. I had my dad...who didn't know anything. My coach helped a few of the girls by giving private lessons, and lent out her saddles, and old show clothes to the girls who were tired of their stuff. I asked her if i could borrow a western pleasure saddle, and she told me she doesn't help out like that. She never once gave me any kind of advice.

Sophomore year: My horse dies. Instead of getting a sympathy letter, or any kind of acknowledgment of the fact that he died, I get quite the opposite. I get completely ignored by the coaching staff. Since i didn't have a horse to ride, I helped run the games, and set up, and help everyone. I never once got a thank you or any kind of recognition.

Junior year: New, stubborn, proud gelding-Bo. Bo never got in the trailer when i first got him. At the practices, she never helped me, or even tried to help me get him in. She never gave me tips on my patterns during meets. In fact, another teams coach, came up to me, and helped me with my horse. My dad told her about my rescue horse who died, and then enext week we get a letter through the school, from her- a sympathy note honoring his death anniversary from her.

I put myself in some pretty sticky situations, but my coach never helped me out. Let's see what Senior year has to offer.
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post #2 of 9 Old 08-11-2010, 01:59 PM
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Wow! Good luck with that....
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post #3 of 9 Old 08-11-2010, 02:06 PM
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wow im so sorry :[ ..losing a horse is never easy i had a thoroughbred gelding whom passed away just this march during my freshman year..i was heartbroken.Also about that coach..maybe its time you find a new place..riding instructors are supposed to help teach you and make you a better rider not ignor you and not give you pointers.
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post #4 of 9 Old 08-11-2010, 02:12 PM
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Is this college or HS?

Regardless, if you keep doing the same thing without getting any kind of thanks or recompense, why do you continue?

In order to be on the equestrian team, I'm going to assume it costs money. Why throw your money away if you're getting no help?

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, and expecting different results.

If you expect things to be different, either you're going to have to change teams, or stand up for yourself.
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post #5 of 9 Old 08-11-2010, 02:24 PM
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Yeah, if you are not getting help, stand up and demand it. You don't have to be loud, just proud.
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post #6 of 9 Old 08-11-2010, 02:35 PM
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Oh man same thing happened to me! And this coming year is my senior year too! I decided I wanted to ride in college and my trainor was rude and condescending towards me and then cherished these three other girls who rode with her. I decided to switch trainers and my new trainer is so nice, and helpfull and is constantly giving me tips and advice. I consider my friend, trainer and a good reliable source of info.she listens to what I want and tries to make it happen (with riding in college). I don't know if your considering switching trainers but just throwing it out there :) otherwise good luck!! And ps. I'm so sorry about loss :(
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post #7 of 9 Old 08-11-2010, 09:31 PM Thread Starter
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[QUOTE=Speed Racer;715875]Is this college or HS?

It's high school.

I'm really nervous, because tomorrow is our first practice of the season, and my companion horse (i'm using her for barrels this year) doesn't get in the trailer either. I'm worried I'll look like the idiot, and it's always rough when you need help but they don't help.

I don't want to quit the team because that would be letting them get away with it. Also, I'm not part of a 4-h group, and this is my opportunity to show at something that's not an open show.
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post #8 of 9 Old 08-12-2010, 08:41 AM
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I think it'd be good to let them get away with it because you don't want that and you put money for it so you've all rights to have service that's good enough. I guess her behavior won't change anything if you just hang out with them because you don't want to let them get away with it.

I agree with SR, leave the team or stand for yourself. I understand the oppoturnity point tho. Would it be possible to change a team?

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Että koskaan en ole yksin, varjo seuraa onneain.
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post #9 of 9 Old 08-12-2010, 08:47 AM Thread Starter
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I can't change teams.

I can stand for myself though, I think. I can try at least. It's not like it's a volleyball team where you look stupid when you're alone. I have my horse with me, so I'll be okay i tihnk.

Thanks for supporting me guys, it make me feel so much better about the whole situation knowing I'm not alone, and there are options.
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