So Im married to this amazing cowboy, the love of my life, we have been married for four months. We have 5 kids living with us, the older three boys are not ours by blood they are adopted from my husbands previous marriage, he got custody of all five kids when he divorced her butt because she is mentally unstable, he was in the army and over in Iraq. She had the three boys from her previous marriage and he divorced her as well because he found out what a manipulative nut case she was. Well when my husband was married to her before he met me he went over seas like I said. While gone She beat all 5 kids ( he had two little ones with her before he realized how terribly vile she was) she cheated on him, let her boyfriend beat the kids, took all the money he earned from the military and got breast implants. After that she and her boyfriend abandoned the kids, just packed up and left one day without a word. My husband divorced her, and met me a year later. We are extremley happy. Other than the fact that SHE keeps sending crap in the mail, keeps calling the kids and acts like she did nothing wrong. I can honestly say I have never ever hated someone more in my life than this woman. The older boys know what she did but only the oldest wants nothing to do with her. The other 4 only do because she sends them junk. Because she is trying to buy them off after the crap she pulled and they are eating it up like candy. It makes me want to scream! I wish these kids could see what a horrid woman she is, she may have given birth to them but she is no kind of mother. The two youngest do call me mommy and mostly have forgotten her but now and then when she sends mail it sends me into a tailspin because that's all they can talk about for the rest of the night. I know its not my husbands fault, he admits to being a dumb country boy stuck in the city where he met her when he was stationed there for military. He regrets everything except the kids. I love these kids as if they were my own, it just hurts when that happens. Like they forget that im the one who holds them when they wake up at night crying from a nightmare. Who told them they have nothing to fear. These kids used to hold their hands over their ears with loud noises because that's what the older boys taught them to do while My husband was over seas because she would scream at them. Im the one who taught them how to read, kissed their booboos. Sang them to sleep and tucked them in at night. I love my husband and the kids so very much. I just wish there was a way to ignore her forever. To not let her get to me. She is manipulative, abusive and likes for people to hurt. Anyone have any suggestions?