Originally Posted by Samstead
ugh I hate hearing that stuff, breaks my heart that people take such a beautiful thing and make it ugly.
Honey it's not making a beautiful thing and making it ugly - it's taking something and blowing it way out of porportion that I grew up in. The cult I was in used "christianity" (and I spell it lower case and in quotes because I am not talking about REAL Christianity) and twisted scripture to support their abuse of power and control. And one of their BIG things was "let me PRAY on it" as justification for anything that those in positions of control wanted. And that included them making decisions on relationships/friendships - who could or couldnt talk or who couldnt be seen together ("the Lord impressed on me that the two of you together as friends is a stumbling block to others around you" - and yes I heard that to myself and to others MORE times that I care to recall).
Trust me I don't knock it for anyone who honestly chooses to pray for the Lord's guidance in every step of their lives. It just took me 10 years after leaving to clear my head and figure out life for myself and find the true meaning of Christian & communication with God, and I'm one who found he is the loving Lord who lets us make our own decisions and is there to help us pick up the pieces when we stumble and ask for his help.
So now I'm of the school that if someone has to pray about something and then back away after stepping up then I'm hesistant. But if it is something you are good with then GOOD for YOU
As for taking things slow - with today's communication means distance is a minor thing in all but being together in the flesh, skype, email, text messages, phone calls. The only draw back to distance is are you getting to know the real person or just the persona that they are choosing to allow you to see
. Weigh the odds and you decide if that is the direction you want to take it. Or ride it out and see where it goes. That is a decision that you have to make for youself.