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        06-12-2013, 04:24 PM
      #31
    Showing
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    Originally Posted by MGTS    
    As for taking things slow - with today's communication means distance is a minor thing in all but being together in the flesh, skype, email, text messages, phone calls. The only draw back to distance is are you getting to know the real person or just the persona that they are choosing to allow you to see. Weigh the odds and you decide if that is the direction you want to take it. Or ride it out and see where it goes. That is a decision that you have to make for youself.
    This is very true, but being away fleshy wise is difficult. Things can be interpreted aside from how you meant it, which causes a lot of problems.

    Just make sure it's something you both feel you can keep together.
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        06-15-2013, 06:13 PM
      #32
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    Honey it's not making a beautiful thing and making it ugly - it's taking something and blowing it way out of porportion that I grew up in. The cult I was in used "christianity" (and I spell it lower case and in quotes because I am not talking about REAL Christianity) and twisted scripture to support their abuse of power and control. And one of their BIG things was "let me PRAY on it" as justification for anything that those in positions of control wanted. And that included them making decisions on relationships/friendships - who could or couldnt talk or who couldnt be seen together ("the Lord impressed on me that the two of you together as friends is a stumbling block to others around you" - and yes I heard that to myself and to others MORE times that I care to recall).

    Trust me I don't knock it for anyone who honestly chooses to pray for the Lord's guidance in every step of their lives. It just took me 10 years after leaving to clear my head and figure out life for myself and find the true meaning of Christian & communication with God, and I'm one who found he is the loving Lord who lets us make our own decisions and is there to help us pick up the pieces when we stumble and ask for his help.

    So now I'm of the school that if someone has to pray about something and then back away after stepping up then I'm hesistant. But if it is something you are good with then GOOD for YOU
    . [U].
    That's kind of what I meant, different views I guess. People need to stop using "God has told me" to control others, like this guys who was hitting on me (not the same as your experience but humor me) and said "give this a a chance, that's what God has told me." yeah um why didn't I get the memo on that one? Think God've let me in on it if I was supposed to "give this a chance"
         
        06-27-2013, 12:20 AM
      #33
    Yearling
    Alright, kind of forgot this thread existed a lot has changed since I talked to you guys last....so um...I don't think it's going to work out. Firstly it's not gotten an less awkward to hang out and while I know relationships are awkward at first I think this goes past that I've done plus I think we want different things from a relationship a lot of talking to God and I don't believe this a relationship he wants me in, since my life is for his honor that doesn't really work does it? Now the issue is how do I tell HIM? I know he really likes me and I'm not good at delicate situations like this
         
        06-27-2013, 01:23 AM
      #34
    Yearling
    This is the video that made me realize it won't work out
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature...&v=ysCtpNH8yEs
         
        06-27-2013, 09:39 AM
      #35
    Foal
    Easy - you tell him - "you are a nice guy, I think we could be friends, but beyond that it is just not meant to be." And let it be. There is no such thing as a "delicate" way to let a guy down - just do it and don't let him hang onto a thread of hope of "maybe she will come around".
         
        06-27-2013, 04:54 PM
      #36
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    Just be straight up honest, but sincere.
         
        06-28-2013, 12:55 AM
      #37
    Yearling
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    Originally Posted by MGTS    
    Easy - you tell him - "you are a nice guy, I think we could be friends, but beyond that it is just not meant to be." And let it be. There is no such thing as a "delicate" way to let a guy down - just do it and don't let him hang onto a thread of hope of "maybe she will come around".
    I know I just really suck at hurting people, even when I don't like them there's a little voice in my head going "wow, jerk"
         

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