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post #1 of 98 Old 08-18-2009, 05:32 PM Thread Starter
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lack of parental guidance in today's kids?

I have three girls and my oldest is 11. Some of her friends have Facebook or MySpace profiles, which I think is just wrong for that age. I'm just wondering how many parents are really aware of their kids' online activity. My girls have to ask to even get on the computer and if there's some new site they want to go to I have to approve it. On sites they do belong to, I know their usernames and passwords and will go in and monitor what they've been doing. I don't know, am I a little too old-fashioned?

I've seen some young members on here whom I can only assume their parents are unaware of what they're doing. Some really seem to have a lack of parental guidance and seem to just be seeking attention. I guess that's why I'm so concerned about what my own kids are doing.

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I don't know, am I a little too old-fashioned?
2 words: Absolutely NOT. I think it's ridiculous for anyone that age to be on something like that where the site actualy lures you into giving out 'classified' information. You are fine. Go with your mommy instincts, lol.

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Im 13 and I have had my own computer since I was 8 or 9 and have been using it without parental supervision since then. I would be rather annoyed if my parents were reading my private conversations and looking at my private stuff. Also I have a 9yr old brother that has his own computer and uses it without supervision or having the sites he goes on checked out.

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post #4 of 98 Old 08-18-2009, 07:11 PM
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Some kids I know have stuff like that. I personally have parental blocks on mine. Im 13 almost 14.

My err "friend" is 12. He has not guidance... he watches soft core porn.... which I think is redonkulous.

But I do think we could use a little leeway. Some of us are good. We should be able to be trusted with myspaces, but have our guardians check over it.
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I have three girls and my oldest is 11. Some of her friends have Facebook or MySpace profiles, which I think is just wrong for that age. I'm just wondering how many parents are really aware of their kids' online activity. My girls have to ask to even get on the computer and if there's some new site they want to go to I have to approve it. On sites they do belong to, I know their usernames and passwords and will go in and monitor what they've been doing. I don't know, am I a little too old-fashioned?

I've seen some young members on here whom I can only assume their parents are unaware of what they're doing. Some really seem to have a lack of parental guidance and seem to just be seeking attention. I guess that's why I'm so concerned about what my own kids are doing.
Good for you 3neighs!

I'll tell you what, I would never permit my child to have a computer of their own, let along a computer in their room. Woudn't happen. Too many creaps out there and too many wrong things that could happen to your child while being unsupervised on the scarey world of the internet.

Good for you for protecting your children in that way.

I agree with you wholeheartedly.

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I am not allowed a Myspace, but I do have a Facebook. Only because my older brother is on there, along with a bunch of cousins who would tell on me.

My parents don't go through my stuff though.

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My daughter is 16 and she thinks I'm bassackwards. I won't let her have a cell phone. (ok, I tried it and someone she didn't know texted her, asking her name and age and SHE TOLD THEM! Duh!!!) I won't let her have a facebook or myspace. (she made a myspace once and put on there that she was 21 with a fake name and someone else's picture.) She doesn't get on the computer unless it's school related and I am there to monitor what she is doing.

As far as I'm concerned what she does at 18 is her business but until then its my job to make sure she makes it to 18 safe and sound and I'll do whatever I feel is necessary to accomplish that.

So I'm sure ya'll think I'm a bad mom now. :(
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3Neighs, you are what parenting is suppose to be! Never doubt yourself where your childs welfare and safety are concerned. It's not the "easy" road to take, but it is the right road. Keep up the good parenting.
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Plainsdrifter - absolutely not. You are protecting your daughter, what more can you be as a Mother? I congratulate you for standing up and putting your foot down.

I am not a Mother and never will be, but it drives me bonkers when I see the younger generation running around with cell phones text messaging like crazy.

You know what - if I ever become a Mother, my kid will NOT have a cell phone where they can text message continuously - and if they do want one, then they can get a job and pay for it themselves. It drives me up the wall when I see them texting non stop at the mall, at the restaurant, in the theator and, my biggest pet peeve.....driving. NUH UH!

I would allow my child to have a cell phone only for emergency use only. No texting, just access to emergency numbers including me and my husbands.

Now Facebook is alright in my book because it is a protected site. But I would definitely make sure I see my child's friends list on a regular basis, but Myspace, I dislike Myspace very much - there is no protection with that one, so you do not know what is going on and who has access to my childs page.

I think you are being a great Mother, you are protecting your child and that is what a Mother is supposed to do.

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I have three girls and my oldest is 11. Some of her friends have Facebook or MySpace profiles, which I think is just wrong for that age. I'm just wondering how many parents are really aware of their kids' online activity. My girls have to ask to even get on the computer and if there's some new site they want to go to I have to approve it. On sites they do belong to, I know their usernames and passwords and will go in and monitor what they've been doing. I don't know, am I a little too old-fashioned?

I've seen some young members on here whom I can only assume their parents are unaware of what they're doing. Some really seem to have a lack of parental guidance and seem to just be seeking attention. I guess that's why I'm so concerned about what my own kids are doing.

I completely agree with you. I am 25 (Saturday) my husband and I have already had this discussion as our son has turned 7 and loves the computer. (Our daughter is 5) Everything will be approved by us first. They can have there own computer but it is in our office with our username and passwords. They are not allowed on the computer without us next to them and it will stay that way even with the blocks we have issued on his computer. They will not be getting cell phones (unless they are the emergency phones) until they can pay for them and even then if they are not 18 they will be monitored by my husband and I. I was raised in the way that if you want something you work for it and after your doing working for it you can work a little harder, then you have earned it. It made me appreciate everything we have no matter how small.

There are to many crazies in the world and not enough sane people LOL These same rules we have applied for Tv, Friends, etc. I expect them to make there own mistakes, how else would they learn? But certain mistakes do not have to be made to begin with.

If your views are old fashioned, then I guess at the age of 25 we are joining the club LOL

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