Well, you are a bigger person than I....we aren't allowing ANYONE to visit in the hosptial. The family just sort of accepted it. I'm lucky in that my MIL totally understands and said she would have done the same thing if she'd had that option.I am am a totally private person and I don't want pics and visitors while I'm all battered and tired. Or breastfeeding. I know they don't come for the new mom anyways..just to pass the baby around, but still...
Also, when we picked Charley as a name, there was silence, and awkward looks, but they have grown to love the name, as it's the grandbaby's indentity.
I think you are being nice in letting them come at all. Really, I feel the Mom has a lot of say since she's the one that just did all the work. LOL I agree with you about the name, when your girl grows up, she can make desicions about her name then. .
Good luck and I hope you have an easy delivery! Just remember, as my husband pointed out..if you get a little combative over the baby and your rules, you can always blame it on the hormones!! But better to put your foot down now! It will save a lot of hard feelings in the end.