Originally Posted by barefoothooves
Well, you are a bigger person than I....we aren't allowing ANYONE to visit in the hosptial. The family just sort of accepted it. I'm lucky in that my MIL totally understands and said she would have done the same thing if she'd had that option.I am am a totally private person and I don't want pics and visitors while I'm all battered and tired. Or breastfeeding. I know they don't come for the new mom anyways..just to pass the baby around, but still...
Also, when we picked Charley as a name, there was silence, and awkward looks, but they have grown to love the name, as it's the grandbaby's indentity.
I think you are being nice in letting them come at all. Really, I feel the Mom has a lot of say since she's the one that just did all the work. LOL I agree with you about the name, when your girl grows up, she can make desicions about her name then. .
Good luck and I hope you have an easy delivery! Just remember, as my husband pointed out..if you get a little combative over the baby and your rules, you can always blame it on the hormones!! But better to put your foot down now! It will save a lot of hard feelings in the end.
See we spoke to most of the nursing staff when we took our hospital tour and they said that MOST mothers have strict rules about who can and can't visit. And his family reacted like it was totally bizarre and that I was out of control!
I just don't want to be bombarded with visitors when I am popping out a breast every 2 hours to feed...look and feel exhausted...and just overall want peace and quiet.
I (and most hospital staff agree) also feel that babies shouldn't be passed around right after birth...they need rest too not to mention need time to build up immunity to stuff.
But this is typical of his family...somehow every event becomes something about "them" instead of us. For example...our wedding was very casual...extremely low key...planned in 48 hours
His mom and dad came up to us AT THE CEREMONY...and said "they should have been included in the planning because this day was about them too." Give me a break.