Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: New South Wales, Australia
Your situation sounds really tough. Parents are supposed to support their children, you're covering your food and utilities, and offering to help with renovations and pet bills instead of paying rent. I think this is reasonable but even if others don't, your father agreed to this. Sure the "real world" is hard but in the "real world" if someone were to rent out a room for an agreed upon sum they can't just up it whenever they like.
I think some people on here are being unfair. Finding decent accommodation can be so hard and often it's awful. For many years I'd move 4 or sometimes 5 times a year just from house to house. That's what the reality is for a lot of people looking for rooms in that price bracket. You're sharing with strangers that 90% aren't how they claim to be, and when they start taking your things, not paying bills and generally living in ways that make it very difficult for you to live yours you have to move. It doesn't mean you're making bad decisions or anything, just the reality of the situation.
I don't know the system your countries, but here "welfare" payments are designed to help people get through tricky situations, help people get on their feet. If a 19 year old with poor housing, no parental support moves to a city to get a good job and find opportunities and is seriously looking for work needs support, then that's what I think welfare is for. Moving to this place, finding a good job and paying taxes pays back what she used. To me that's what the system was designed for. I'm not saying it's a plan to go on it, but it's not a shameful or disgraceful thing.
My advice is to be sure that things will be better in this city. Research employment, industries and such because often, even though there are many more jobs advertised, the unskilled unemployment rate can be higher in cities. The applicants are better educated and with more experience (just because there is more of them), and people in cities can be less likely to take a chance on someone. So really be sure. When I was younger I thought it was a great idea to move to the city, work, life, housing etc and I did. After going through a few jobs that just did not work out I found a okay one, but then decided to go get educated. It wasn't anything like I thought in the city, it wasn't really anything at all. Just another big place full of strangers. Living in the country, smaller cities and towns, I've found more opportunity.