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post #41 of 44 Old 10-20-2013, 12:05 AM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by sunandbeach View Post
I am so sorry for the situation you are are correct...if you dad agreed that you would pay vet bills and do some home improvements in lieu of rent....that deal should hold....maybe you can try talking with him again....but if he is using drugs...he may not be clear minded enough to have this there a church in you community that can possibly could help you.....or another family member that you could stay with until you can save enough money for a move with another job secured before you would move?
I also think that he should keep to what he agreed to, but we'll have to see what happens. I will try to talk to him again but who knows what the outcome will be.
I really wish I could say I had other options but the next closest family are my grandparents and they turned me down, and the rest of my family is dispersed elsewhere. We're not from this town initially. will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. ... Explore. Dream. Discover.”
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post #42 of 44 Old 10-20-2013, 08:08 PM
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Keep your chin up, & shame on your father for being a druggie & going back on his WORD, & probably shame on your grandparents, too! I mean, you're not even old enough to buy a bottle of beer in the US!

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post #43 of 44 Old 10-22-2013, 03:08 PM
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I did something kinda sorta similar. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship and knew the only way to fix my life was by physically removing myself from the situation and city. I was 19 and in second year university - I knew my parents would flip if I told them I wanted to move away, drop my classes, and start completely fresh. I NEEDED out though, they didn't know half of that awful relationship.

So I didn't tell them. Or anybody. I organized the move from central BC to AB in less than 2 weeks, got a place to live through a friend of my then-current landlord. I booked the plane ticket, left my parents a note explaining my actions, and didn't tell them until I had boarded the plane. It wasn't easy and it took some guts, but it was the only way I could do it. I found a job within a couple weeks, pushed through all the scary crap that's inevitable when moving alone to a new, unfamiliar city. If you want something badly enough, you WILL make it happen. It's that simple. I've been living here for a year now, and wouldn't have done anything differently.

I can relate to feeling trapped, especially when your only option is seen as rash and risky by society's standards. It's your life and your happiness, and only you have the right to dictate that.

Kijiji is your friend. While I didn't find my current living situation on there, I've found lots of great jobs, roommates and even my current boarding place on kijiji.

Good luck, do what you have to do! Your gut is your best guide.
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post #44 of 44 Old 10-23-2013, 04:34 PM Thread Starter
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An update on the situation:
I spoke with my father again and he seems to be okay with the agreement we had initially, so that's great, though I'm not entirely sure this will be a one time issue!
I plan on saving as much as possible, meaning at least the two months of living expenses that I think will suit me, then I'm leaving.
Thanks for the thoughts everyone.
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