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post #21 of 37 Old 04-20-2014, 02:33 PM
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I, too, went through a spell where I was so envious of people who could either afford or were given horses with brains and conformation. Meanwhile, I'm out back trying to turn sow's ears into silk purses.

However, it eventually became that I am still riding and still actively in the business at least in part because of those years.

I still ride a variety, but get more good rides than when I was a kid or in my 20s.

I've come to accept that things aren't fair. I'll never have beautiful photos on my walls of wins on beautiful and well behaved horses (mine always got sold as soon as they stopped being vicious or healed), but I have memories that others don't. When I get to the nursing home, I'm going to tell every story as many times as I can!
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post #22 of 37 Old 04-20-2014, 02:45 PM
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Originally Posted by BarrelracingArabian View Post
I'd love to have that one well trained horse to help better my riding I know I have tons of things I need to work on.
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This thought I 100% and totally get, but you know that is what lesson horses, I mean GOOD lesson horses are for.

For so long I have ridden horses that need work, and I am tired of constantly working on them and me at the same time, spending a day at the clinic riding a well trained 'push button' horse was great, I LOVED spending the day just working on fixing me. I was also very excited to take that back to riding Gibbs, and we have improved a lot together from that day.

So if possible I highly highly recommend taking the odd lesson on a 'push button' horse, but you really don't need to ride one the whole time to work on you.
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post #23 of 37 Old 04-20-2014, 09:36 PM
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Originally Posted by Speed Racer View Post
And some people have both. Doesn't mean we get to vilify them for having it easier financially.

I've never had the money to buy a made horse. Every horse I've ever owned has been a project, and I've had horses for 35 years. Last horse I brought home was a 5 y/o OTTB, who only knew how to run to the left. 5 years later, and he's now a pretty darned nice trail/hunter pace mount.

Be proud of what you've accomplished, and stop worrying about what others do or don't have. That way lies frustration and bitterness. Everyone has problems and sorrows.
Couldn't have said it better myself. I have seen and know some of those "brats" and I can say that i would bet money that they are going places. Those kids will make something of themselves in the horse world, because their parents had the money to spend on them. Good for them. They deserve the opportunity to achieve success just as much as the next person.

I will also add that the more you focus on what you don't have and what other people do have, the more you will attract good things to them and more bad things to yourself. You focus on how you have always had green, inexpensive, project horses and that's all you ever will have until you change your outlook on things. Positive things happen to positive people. You should't hate on people just because they have it better than you do. That is so much wasted energy that you could be using on making things better for yourself. Just something to think about.
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post #24 of 37 Old 04-20-2014, 10:11 PM Thread Starter
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Again I'm not "hating" on her I just wish I had the opportunity to have one nice horse. Sure it's fun to ride a wide variety but when most of your life riding you are frustrated it's discouraging.

Speed racers response doesn't bother me I see the point of view and appreciate it. You should also.

The other problem with lessons is where I am now nobody has well trained lesson horse it's sad but even the place I used to ride at I wouldn't recommend for learning much more then how to handle a horse in pain because 90% of the horses out there had back, leg or feet problems due to the lady being in over her head and not knowing much of anything.the "trainer" isn't much better she at one point stood behind my known to kick lease horse whacked her with leather split reins and got double barreled straight in the chest. Another time a lesson students horse fell and ended up in between to tie post and mounting block and she just stop there staring at me as I rushed over and talked the lesson girl through getting him unstuck, all they had to do was put a halter on him and give a tiny tug and he was up. There are many stories like that and being how she bragged about being some big show trainer she didn't know squat.

Well ok now I feel snotty haha I just needed to vent I am in the process of looking at horses and will eventually find one to suit me I'm just in a rough spot with how the last few years have gone. It'll pass and I'll be back to riding soon.

just a small town girl with a big town dream :]
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post #25 of 37 Old 04-21-2014, 11:40 AM
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To bad you don't live closer, we have one selling for cheap right now.

Anyway I get where your coming from. Although I was always in the middle, I had nice horses but they weren't the nicest. I've only had prospects my whole life, trained by my mom. Always on an unseasoned horse. Personally I loved it. But one of my best times was when my mom was able to get me this old gelding. Completely automatic, all you had to do was push him. I ran the local 1D on him. I only ran him for a year though, I got bored and we sold him. I bought a 2 year old after him, I had a finished mare she just wasn't as nice. But I was able to work on me that whole time. My cousins were always handed 100% finished and seasoned horses, I used to be jealous. But now were both on the same financially level I can buy nice prospects and bring them along myself, she can't. I know how to ride colts and it gives me more opportunities. That's my way of looking at it. Just don't worry about it and as for a horse don't settle for anything.
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post #26 of 37 Old 04-21-2014, 12:23 PM
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I've definitely been envious of people who got these gorgeous animals just handed to them. I remember being on a few horse communities in the Livejournal days and there would be girls who were in their teens posting pictures of horses who cost more than my car, usually taken with $2k+ cameras.

It's easy to hate on people who have things you don't, but try to recognize it for what it really is - jealousy. Nobody likes having to bust their hump for years to get the same result as other people get instantly and without having to work for it. There are detriments and benefits to both situations.

On the positives, you've learned how to work hard for what you want. You've learned patience, to be flexible, and to work with what you have. These are GREAT skills to have that will serve you well as you get older. You are very young yet, and you'll no doubt have many opportunities to have nicer horses with better training as you get more settled in life. As well, you're developing the skills to handle issues as they arise, and you can deal with a wider variety of horses.

Good luck on your search!
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post #27 of 37 Old 04-21-2014, 12:55 PM
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I guess I saw it differently. All those knotheads I worked with made me a better rider. When I did finally get my own horse, I was soon able to turn him into a real pleasurable mount to ride.
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post #28 of 37 Old 04-21-2014, 01:07 PM
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I can totally see where you are coming from. Ever since I've been in the horse world I've always had the raggedy lesson/lease horses; the unpapered grade horses (who were nice and some of my best but would never get me any where competitively) and my fair share of people who got whatever they wanted and were never satisfied. I work with a top notch trainer who has the 30,000 - 65,000 horses come through her barn, we've had clients buy them and sell them and meanwhile we both are stuck with the 'lesser' prospects. In fact it's only recently that I've gotten the opportunity to own my first 'nice' (meaning pedigreed, papered and top notch conformation) colt. (Then again I think all of my horses are beautiful and great and better than any other horses .

Any how, my trainer told me this: "Those people may have the expensive, papered and 'great' horses but we have the horses who teach us how to ride." She had a point. One of her 'meat horses' (not the expensive 'great horse variety') went to worlds last year and won his class. My point is that sometimes the best horses are right in front of you. In the end those 'raggedy' horses will teach you more than any of those other horses will; they'll teach you how to sit a buck, rear and roll back in the middle of your park class or the horse attempting airs above grounds in a reining class.

I've said it before and I'll say it again: It's the rider that makes the horse. Keep your chin up and don't hold it against them! (They can't help it our $500 horses are better! jk)
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post #29 of 37 Old 04-21-2014, 01:31 PM
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Barrel I understand where you're coming from.

I grew up in a super wealthy town. My parents were friends with people that bought their kids 20/50K horses, sent them to uber fancy clinics, some even went on to train with Parelli and Anderson... In the yearbooks they were always posing with their fancy well turned out horses in super fancy western clothes and blinged out tack or jumping super georgeous imported WB's over impossibly high fences.

I got a meat man special $505 dollar "green broke" 18 month old grade mare. I had to work to buy anything for her and I think I wore the same boots for 10 years. I was also given unbroke or crazy horses that nobody wanted for free.
My parents were too busy to take me anywhere so I "only got" to live out in the woods breaking her, trail riding and pretending I was at shows...
I wish I had had the opportunities to do what the other girls did, could I have been something?
They could have done more, much more, but I respect that it was THEIR money and time.
So I turned out a good rider anyways that could handle anything, but the other girls did too with all their training...

I've always had cheap horses since my first one, oh my gosh how I miss that horse, but what did I do when I had the opportunity to go buy EXACTLY what I wanted?
I passed up my DREAM horse and bought a $350 train wreck... Ha ha!

So hang in there, "one of these days" you'll have the opportunity to go get exactly what you want. I think that drive and our "poverty" teaches us valuable lessons and makes us tough cookies.
Good luck and keep it up! You ARE doing a service to the animals you're patching up and that's something to be proud of!
There is never too late in the horse world, that's what makes it so awesome. :)
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post #30 of 37 Old 04-21-2014, 01:35 PM Thread Starter
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My first horse was a 17 yr old mustang who hated everyone but me haha my aunt have him to me for my 7 the birthday the next was a green broke 3 yr old mustang who threw my little butt more times then I could count we traded him for a 20 yr old palomino mare who brought my confidence back while also being a challenge.

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