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        10-23-2008, 02:49 PM
      #11
    Green Broke
    :( youll find her soon Brandon. Don't rush.
         
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        10-23-2008, 03:26 PM
      #12
    Weanling
    Thanks guys, and you are are right.. I need to stop lookin, but I will admit, I am very impatient lol..

    I am 19, and I am just an impatient young stallion

    Its just hard sometimes to take it solo..

    Thanks for advice, and I am going to try not to look and worry about it anymore..... GRR lol
         
        10-23-2008, 04:03 PM
      #13
    Started
    Brandon, believe me, the girl you'd find attractive today is not likely to be the girl you'll find attractive in 20 years.
         
        10-23-2008, 05:50 PM
      #14
    Trained
    Brandon, I wish my hubby would join this site sometimes. You sound JUST like he did at 19!!! He was mostly mature ( ok... I'm a woman...I don't know when a guy has matured...lmao...let's just say he wasn't lighting farts anymore) ANYWAYS... He was 23, looking for love and wanting to settle down. Met an 18yo girl that was sweet and needed someone....They married had 2 beautiful children and...........YEP, DIVORCED.

    Now it's a headache and a half. SHE wasn't mature, HE wasn't the man he wanted to be yet & She wasn't the woman that would help he get there. It turned into a big heaping mess. Now, I'm not sayin' that it always ends that way but he RUSHED it. Looking back now he can see all the red flags that he ignored back then.

    Work on YOU, work on becoming the man you want to be. With age comes wisdom and of course maturity. Sew you wild oats, there is a lot of life to live between 19 and 25 or so.

    Put your trust in God and know in your heart that he has the PERFECT mate for you. God's timing is NEVER off.
         
        10-23-2008, 06:04 PM
      #15
    Green Broke
    Hey bud, sorry we can't be complaining about how single life sucks together anymore....

    But honestly, don't get yourself let down and depressed... I know I did it and it only makes life HORRIBLE! What you need to do is for one remember you have Nana now so you'll never be alone I also would suggest stop listening to so many songs that make you love sick... I know that would be hard cus they're good songs, but they don't make you feel good so listening to them really doesn't help.

    Really, don't go looking for love. It just kinda happens. It's ok to have crushes and what not, but focus more on other things (ie. Horses, school, having fun, hanging with friends) If you keep yourself busy and doing stuff you enjoy then you don't have time to think "oh, I'm so lonely this sucks I'll never find anyone" Trust me I've had these thoughts. YOU know i've had these thoughts. So I know EXACTLY where you are coming from.

    And since I never really told you how my bf and I started dating I might as well do so now. First you need background info, so bare w/ me. His sister and I are good friends and so I hung out w/ her a lot. Oh, and he was my ex also... but you knew that. Anyway, I started living at their house on weekends and going to church with them. So I was around him a LOT but I thought he didn't like me so I didn't do anything about it even though I sorta liked him. Anyway, one Sunday night he asked me out. I never saw it coming and I didn't pressure it or anything. It surprised me and it really teaches you that you should just let that certain person find you and not to beat yourself up looking for them. Just hang in there and if you ever need to talk you know how to get ahold of me
         
        10-24-2008, 06:36 AM
      #16
    Weanling
    Dude, you are 19. Have fun. Don't take life so seriously. Date. Date to enjoy the company and have a pleasant evening. Look at it as making a new friend. A date should not be an application process for a lifetime. It is ment to be fun. Date a gal once, or several times. That doesn't make it a commitment.

    You'll be amazed at how much you'll learn about yourself when you date.

    STOP trying to find your soulmate. You'll make yourself crazy. Believe me, when you are 25, you'll look back at nineteen the way you looked back at six when you were twelve.
         
        10-24-2008, 12:29 PM
      #17
    Trained
    Brandon, I used to be like that when I was younger. I would ask friends to set me up with guys, 99% of them were jerks and only wanted one thing.

    The summer before I went to college, the guy I was seeing broke up with me. (it was 2 weeks before I went to college)
    Now I wasn't looking for someone for 2 reasons. 1. I still wasn't over him (even though he was a complete ass) and 2. I was going to college

    2 days before I left for college, I met Tom. I was expecting anything at all!
    After the initial meeting, we didn't hang out until December (Longish story that I wont bore everyone with) and we've been together ever since.

    She is out there, just don't worry about it right now.
    You already have a beautiful girl in your life (Nana). Talk to her, she'll give you great advice and she'll help keep your chin up :)
         
        10-24-2008, 12:33 PM
      #18
    Green Broke
    I have a sister who wonders the same thing about "Mr. Right" Heck, I didnt find my Mr. Right until I was 27, and even then I'm young.

    I don't feel that I'm very good at giving this type of advice, so I'll just stop there.
         
        10-24-2008, 09:06 PM
      #19
    Chat Moderator
    Buddy, I'm in the same boat, but as I'm a little older. I have seen my friends who got married right after school and have been divorced and are miserable. They get their kids everyother weekend.

    One girl, I thought the world of in High School turned out to be a first rate ****. Her current husband was my closest friend in school, until I learned what kind person he was and still is. She learned something about me and give me an offer, that is similar to what the ladies of the night would offer. And, he set a couple of feet away and said nothing. I was shocked and temped. I turned her down, but it wasn't easy.

    I, like you, am wating on marriage, too. And, somedays like would like to give in to that tempation. But, I don't want the consqueses that a one night stand can lead to.
         
        10-24-2008, 09:34 PM
      #20
    Showing
    Feeling better, Brandon?
         

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