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post #11 of 37 Old 04-26-2013, 12:31 AM
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Just wait. You both are young and just starting to begin your adult lives.

When anyone asks you when it's going to happen, tell them that the times not right for now or you've talked about it and decided to wait a while. Definitely no need to rush it right now.
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post #12 of 37 Old 04-26-2013, 12:57 AM Thread Starter
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That's what I'm aiming for..by new car I meant something different than the gas guzzler that we have now. Lol
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Just wait. You both are young and just starting to begin your adult lives.

When anyone asks you when it's going to happen, tell them that the times not right for now or you've talked about it and decided to wait a while. Definitely no need to rush it right now.
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For right now, when people ask me "when are you getting married?", I'm just going to tell them "When he gets out of active duty Army". It's simple, and explains that we are going to wait a while.

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post #14 of 37 Old 04-26-2013, 01:17 AM
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^That sounds like a good answer.
I'm 22 and I've seen *so* many of my friends rush into getting married at 18 and then regretting it a few years or even months later, I have a friend who I graduated with (she just turned 22) who is now divorced and just found out she was pregnant. You're doing the right thing by waiting!

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post #15 of 37 Old 04-26-2013, 01:25 AM Thread Starter
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I have a friend who is 15 and already has a baby. It's really quite sad. The baby is in good hands and everything, but I just couldn't imagine getting pregnant at 14. :/

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post #16 of 37 Old 04-26-2013, 04:30 AM
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I agree with people who say that you can wait. Sounds that you've a lot on your plate even otherwise now so probably you could focus on these other things now and get accustomed to 'adult life' a bit before doing that kind of commitment. What I've experienced, you usually change or at least grow up a bit during that kind of big life changes like moving out of home. So (even sure this is personal situation for everyone) maybe it's good to wait for a while and 'settle down' in your new life at first and let him to do his active serve in military first, too. And reading your message, sounds that you want to wait at that point, am I right?

The chance to marriage won't disappear and you can go for it when you're both ready . You can always tell those who are asking it that you'll take this step when you're both ready but want to wait just now for a while.

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post #17 of 37 Old 04-26-2013, 05:35 AM
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I have a friend who is 15 and already has a baby. It's really quite sad. The baby is in good hands and everything, but I just couldn't imagine getting pregnant at 14. :/
nothing to say on the marriage part except you've got some great advice but...

I'm 14 and NO WAY can I imagine being pregnant either!!! I'm not even interested in boys! I'm glad that baby and mum are ok, no matter how young.

Calculations time: Presuming baby was born when she was 15, when she is only 32/33, this baby will be finishing high school. My mother gave BIRTH to me when she was 34

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post #18 of 37 Old 04-26-2013, 08:23 AM
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It would be so nice if people would come to the realization as to how ignorant they are being when asking the marriage question. These same people also ask the pregnant or baby question. Ask them when they're getting divorced? That will divert the topic away from you. You seem pretty sensible. You don't have to justify your plans with these people, they don't sign your pay check.
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post #19 of 37 Old 04-26-2013, 09:10 AM
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Why on earth are people asking an 18 year old woman when she's getting married?

I'm 31, and I just tell people I'm still too young.

You sound like a very sensible young lady, and you both have so much living to do. Go enjoy it!

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post #20 of 37 Old 04-26-2013, 09:16 AM
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OH just tell them "Whenever Nate and I decide to.. thanks for asking!" and refuse to engage in convo about it.

Most people mean well, but it really adds pressure that nobody needs to make one of the most important decisions of your life.

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