I'm just slightly younger than you OP...I won't be 18 until December though.
IMO you're being wise to not want to get married immediately. Marriage is a huge thing, and rushing into it can cause a lot of needless worry. Wait until
you have a good grip on adult life. Nate can get a steady job once he gets out of the service ...maybe he can even take advantage of some of their free education if he stays in long enough? Thats how my mom got her nursing degree. Meanwhile you can learn how to be independant before having to be dependant again (not necessarily a bad thing, but hopefully you get my drift), invest in a good car, maybe continue your education or get a steady job yourself, and just spend a little time being 'just you'. Ideally marriage is forever, so this is the might be the one chance in your life to experience being completely independant, and not needing to worry about your new family. Don't rush adulthood ;) in my personal opinion, marriage works best when two people are independant and capable of caring for themselves, then they combine to take care of each other and their children as their family grows. Otherwise it just turns into a penny-scraping, extremely frustrating, exhausting job that quickly grows old.
I actually personally haven't dated at all because I don't feel like I, or any of the guys I know, are ready... though my mom pressures me to do so quite often. I can't even invite a few friends that include a guy to my house or to the movies without her and my sister poking at me going 'do you like him? huhuhuh?!' 'wouldn't he make a GREAT boyfriend/husband?' It gets old. So, in a way, I sort of know how you feel? LOL. If you've been lucky enough to find a guy that isn't as immature and idiotic as the ones that I know, thats amazing, and you want to do all that you can to give the two of you the best odds possible. And that probably does mean waiting while you 'get on your feet' so to speak :)
best of luck to you!
That's pretty much how I feel about the whole thing. Unfortunately, since there have been budget cuts in the U.S. military, they don't offer the free education anymore. In fact, the Marines don't even get served breakfast anymore. Luckily, he's already been through college, and his GPA was a 4.0.
The reason why we are dead broke is because he is paying off his student loans right now. lol
Whenever he is in the Army, I will definitely have to be more independent, but that's fine. It's just another part of life, and the way I see it, it will just make us that much closer when he comes back.
A long time ago, I promised myself that I would never get divorced. I had such a horrible experience with my parents getting divorced, I don't want to put any of my family members through that again. Both sides of my mom's family are practically known
for getting divorced. I want to be the one that gets married and stays
That's why I want to take things slow and not rush into anything. I feel like if we rush into marriage, we'll just regret it in the long run.