ok couldnt find the falling down laughing symbol for the above, but just picture me slapping the desk and laughing at that one, sometimes I just crack myself up.
Ok serious discussion now. I've done the step dad thing a couple times, was a complete disaster,. The man will always be the odd man out, and generally there are disputes about the kid.The man will always lose. Then he ends up feeling like a guest with no say so in his own house that HE is paying for while some uncontrolled demon spawn trashes the place. Just hasnt worked for me in the past. No way no how would I even consider a marriage into the situation. THere just really isnt any tangible benifit to it. I don't think I could deal with a live together situation either if there were kids involved. You must be true to yourself. I know me, I despise kids, especially other peoples kids. I didnt even like myself when I was a kid.
I'll never legally marry under any circumstances though, just don't see the point or anything but potential risk to me, with no chance of gain. Seems like a very poor investment.
There are plenty out there that will I guess. Plenty of men would find a 35yo as ideal, Im one of them, Im also 44 yo but imagine I am pretty normal in the that regard. But I owuldnt be keen on the kid issue and offered a choice Id date a 40 you with an 18 yo off to college kid before Id date a 30 yo with a 2nd grader.