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post #1 of 57 Old 07-08-2013, 08:47 AM Thread Starter
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Are men into young girls only?

OK, that was brought up on different (non-horsey) forum I go to once in while. I still can't get over it (somewhat), so just wanted to share...

One of the members said in several threads that only losers (or idiots) will be interested in marrying a 35 years old (or older) woman. And if the woman is 35 yo and has a child then even losers won't be interested.

That was NOT meant as a joke - the person was 100% serious. And several people (including myself) were appalled (should I say p*ssed off?) by what he was saying. I personally know bunch of ladies in their 30th, 40th, and even 50th (for example, my aunt ) who got married happily (and some got kids in late 30th - early 40th). What I don't understand (and I asked that guy directly without getting a response (of course)) is what could be a reason to think that woman is "useless" and "unneeded" passed certain age mark... * rolled eyes *

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post #2 of 57 Old 07-08-2013, 08:56 AM
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Sounds like a loser to me.
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Sounds like somebody just lookin for a reaction.. I'd ignore and let them move onto something else. Anybody with half a brain knows thats a load of rubbish, so I wouldn't even entertain the stupidity with a response. Just my opinion anyway..
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Hehe.... Actually that's exactly what I asked him.... And got no response...

He's not a troll, BTW, and wasn't trying to "fire up" the conversation. Just weirdo I assume...

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I can't have a stimulating enough conversation with most 20-30 something to hold my interest for more than a couple of minutes. Just not enough life experience behind those eyes for me. Without stimulating conversations I wouldn't stick around long enough to marry them.
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i disagree, I am sure there are plenty of losers that would be interested in a 35yo woman with a child.
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ok couldnt find the falling down laughing symbol for the above, but just picture me slapping the desk and laughing at that one, sometimes I just crack myself up.

Ok serious discussion now. Ive done the step dad thing a couple times, was a complete disaster,. The man will always be the odd man out, and generally there are disputes about the kid.The man will always lose. Then he ends up feeling like a guest with no say so in his own house that HE is paying for while some uncontrolled demon spawn trashes the place. Just hasnt worked for me in the past. No way no how would I even consider a marriage into the situation. THere just really isnt any tangible benifit to it. I dont think I could deal with a live together situation either if there were kids involved. You must be true to yourself. I know me, I despise kids, especially other peoples kids. I didnt even like myself when I was a kid.
I'll never legally marry under any circumstances though, just dont see the point or anything but potential risk to me, with no chance of gain. Seems like a very poor investment.
There are plenty out there that will I guess. Plenty of men would find a 35yo as ideal, Im one of them, Im also 44 yo but imagine I am pretty normal in the that regard. But i owuldnt be keen on the kid issue and offered a choice Id date a 40 you with an 18 yo off to college kid before Id date a 30 yo with a 2nd grader.
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Just to back what Joe said, I've known plenty of guys who have tried to date women with children. Mom's don't give them any say in raising the kids because they are not theirs and kids don't listen anyway because they are not his. This leads to a ton of friction.
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I wonder what the age of that individual was? I could completely understand a guy in his 20's not being at all interested in a 35+ woman with a child... talk about massive responsibility that they most likely aren't ready to take on.

I can also completely understand not wanting to date people who already have children. I don't think the entire stepchild stepparent relationship is *always* a nightmare or not worth getting into but I don't think it's at all *easy* either, especially in the beginning.

Discounting ALL women over a certain age though is crazy and I'm sure it's not the prevailing opinion. Seems like 90% of the women I know were all married around 33 or 34 and are just starting to have children a few years past that. My husband is 14yrs older than me but he wasn't actively seeking younger women to date, we never intended to date each other, we were coworkers who became friends and it just progressed from there.
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I am surprised that you are surprised at this. As a general trend, men have always been drawn to women younger than themselves, at least once they get past 40. What's so surprising about that? Just the way it is.
But marrying, that's different. I appreciated what Darrin said about there needing to be "something behind those eyes" in the way of life experience. However, there are plenty of men who will trade that something behind the eyes for something in front of the rib cage.

I would also like to say that being a step mom also has a lot of challenges. Just being a step parent sounds like a tremendously hard job. I salute any of you who do this very hard job!
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