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post #1 of 30 Old 07-30-2012, 07:11 PM Thread Starter
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Miscarriage. I'm crushed.

I just found out I was pregnant 2 weeks ago. While it wasn't expected or planned, fiance and I were happy. Today I miscarried. I don't even know how to handle it, I have never felt this way before. Fiance is on his way home soon, I kinda just want to be alone, but I know we need each other right now. I just feel sick, and like crying, and my heart hurts. What do we do? Wallow in self pity for the night? Get drunk and relax with a movie? Go out to dinner? I need some advice on how to deal with this pain. I know it will pass, but right now it feels like the end of the world :(
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post #2 of 30 Old 07-30-2012, 07:13 PM
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Oh my gosh im so sorry. I have no advice to offer as I am still only young but my heart goes out to you and your fiance.
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Thank you, he's not taking it so well. He'll be home soon, I don't know what to say to him. This is the worst feeling in the world. I had a life in me, and now it is gone and I will never get to see him/her. When I told my fiance we were having a baby, his eyes lit up and he was the happiest person in the world. Now he's driving home from work, probably bawling his eyes out. It's not fair.
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It's a horrible feeling .. I know. Ya'll do whatever you feel like ....

I don't know what your beliefs are, but I am confident I will see and know my babies in heaven.

Thinking about ya'll tonight.

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post #5 of 30 Old 07-30-2012, 08:02 PM
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I'm so very sorry <3

My mom miscarried her third child, just before my little brother was born- and it was very hard to see her go through it. The best advice that she ever got about it though was from her doctor, who actually wrote her a perscription to just cry. Drinking, ignoring it, etc, are not going to help you heal. Only time and dealing with it will. My mom did not do this for a long time and it tore her up until her very wise doctor told her to go home and do whatever she needed to do to deal with the pain. Cry, scream...whatever. Its part of the natural healing process. Miscarriage is a painful and heartbreaking thing to deal with <3 I'm so sorry you had to go through it.

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post #6 of 30 Old 07-30-2012, 08:06 PM
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There is not prescribed way you "should" feel. Whatever you feel is real and correct. Now is a time to draw closer to those you love and who love you to reaffirm that. So sad , but it does happen, a LOT more than people realize.

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HUGS to you!!!

If it makes you feel any better, it was probably no one's fault. Approx 25% of all first pregnancies miscarry. It is a sad but natural fact. Many people never know they were ever pregnant.

So sorry you have to endure such a thing.
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My Condolences for your loss.

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post #9 of 30 Old 07-30-2012, 09:48 PM
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I'm very very sorry. Unfortunately it happens and in ~97% of cases not because of your fault, so don't even blame yourself for it. Hugs.

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post #10 of 30 Old 07-30-2012, 10:48 PM
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(((((HUGS))))). I suffered a miscarriage at 11 weeks. I empathize with you. No advice because we each have to deal with it our own way. I curled up in bed and cried for two days. I also wrote in a private journal...writing all my thoughts and feelings uncensored really helped.

Only time will help. Seeing my friends' babies really hurt for the first few months...I would often go home and cry a bit.

Take care of yourself. Don't forget your fiancée is hurting too. I'm sending positive thoughts your way. (((((HUGS)))))
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