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post #21 of 30 Old 08-01-2012, 07:25 AM
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I'm so sorry to hear that; my aunt had suffered multiple miscarriages before finally having her daughter, around two years ago. Both her and my uncle were shattered, especially after the doctor said it'd be incredibly difficult to conceive a child. After Avis, they ended up with a son after having yet another miscarriage. I do agree with much of what others have said, about having to find your own way to grieve.. but at least you know that you'll have each other to help you through it.

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post #22 of 30 Old 08-03-2012, 05:04 PM
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So sorry to hear :(

I can relate, I lost a baby 2 years ago. It was not a nice experience, and I'm sorry you have to go through it. What got me through it, was by telling myself that something was wrong with it, and this was better than the child having to deal with whatever issues it may have had. I have since gone on to have a healthy baby boy.

I do hope yourself and partner can deal with this and find a way get through it soon.

Everybody grieves differently... I was back at work the next day as I felt like I needed to put it behind me. It took my husband longer to deal with it. You'll get through this somehow, and you've made a start by speaking about it and not bottling it up.

Thinking of you.
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Everyone has to deal with this in their own way. So sorry for your loss. I had a little girl that was still born and lost a pregnancy at 26 weeks. I was always thankful that I never cared for the children nor looked into their eyes. I believed it would have been much worse to lose a child you had nurtured and loved on the outside of your body. I found out 9 years ago how true that was when I lost my granddaughter (3) and her mommy (21) in an accident when a young lady hit them head on. I still get down on my knees and Thank God for letting my 11 month old granddaughter survive and for the time I had with Sami and Mandy.

Hope your heart heals soon and completely. God Bless!
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post #24 of 30 Old 08-05-2012, 03:25 AM
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These are so tragic. My heart goes out to each and every one of you!

I know the feeling. Whatever the reason it was... NEVER blame yourself. God doesn't make mistakes, even when his plan hurts. Do whatever feels right and know that whatever you are feeling is normal. Huge hugs to you and your fiancée. Blessings for your upcoming marriage and praying for many happy and healthy babies in your future!

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post #25 of 30 Old 08-05-2012, 01:44 PM
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I'm so sorry .. I understand completely how it feels. I had a miscarriage less than a month ago. I was 7 weeks along and when I found out I was pregnant, I had to cancel my ship date for BCT. It was completely unexpected and I was very stressed which is what I think caused it. At drill last month I had to talk with the commander of the unit about it... you have any idea how embarrassing it is to cry in front of a Captain??

I have been going through a LOT of crap lately and that on top of it has really thrown me over the edge. I've been sitting in front of the computer because I've been sick and off my feet, and I don't have to really "talk" to people but I can do things to keep my mind busy.. Going out and actually socializing with people has been extremely hard for me. I've gone out a couple times but I am always reserved and my mind wanders. It really has done a lot to my mind.

It's always worse before it's better - that's what I have to keep remembering. Sh*t happens and we just have to wipe the crud off our shoes and move on... "Instead of carrying around my worries, I will place them beneath me as stepping stones"

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My thoughts go out to you and your family!
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post #27 of 30 Old 08-05-2012, 06:25 PM
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My heart goes out to you, my mother miscarried her fourth child just before my youngest sister. And I know how hard it was on her and my step dad. But my mom was almost lost too from blood loss. The doctor said the baby was actually suppose to be twins who didn't split right, had the pregnancy went on the babies/baby would have had.extreme medical problems and I personally believe that God knew we couldn't handle it. He always has a reason.
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post #28 of 30 Old 08-05-2012, 06:38 PM
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You have my deepest sympathy. However you and your fiance decide to handle it is the right way.

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post #29 of 30 Old 08-09-2012, 12:23 AM
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Im so sorry :( I really hope you can find something to help.

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post #30 of 30 Old 08-09-2012, 01:38 AM
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Originally Posted by Equilove View Post
Going out and actually socializing with people has been extremely hard for me.
I know this one too well, I didn't leave the house for 3 weeks and then if I did go out I wanted James at my side.

I was 14 weeks. the hardest thing for me (right now) is finding out friends are pregnant, sends me back into the "I don't want to leave the house crying mess" frame of mind again.
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