I know there are some (or maybe a lot of) mothers out there who have trouble letting their kids go but this is just ridiculous. And I apologise if this isn't very well put or doesn't make sense but then it is a rant.
My sister is 22 and she wants to move in with her boyfriend who she's been with for 6 years. They are both very responsible, have planned this out well, know where they want their relationship to go, etc. She talked to my dad about it and he agreed it sounds like a good plan. Well then she talked to our mom about it and everything feel apart. She got all upset and told my sister she has to have permission to move out. She's 22 and she can't move out because mommy won't let her!! What is that!!?!?!
But it goes beyond not being able to let us grow up. It's like my mom has this image in her head of how the perfect children should be and she spends all of her time trying to guilt us into being that perfect kid. She'll see some kids on TV who do all these chores and are all happy about it and they do everything their parents tell them and all this stuff and she gets mad and asks why her kids can't be good like them. She thinks everything we do is aimed at her so every time we do something she doesn't like she gets all upset and claims we're doing it because we don't love her. Like when I got my tattoo she thought I did it because I was rebeling against her when really it had absolutly nothing to do with her! And then she decided to ignore me for about a week. Literally ignore me. I would ask her soemthing and she would just not answer me, and hwne I was in the room with her she'd act like I wasn't there. And she'll do that if we ask her something she doesn't like. She'll just not answer and expects us to just give up and go away.
My mom has pretty bad depression. She's never happy and while I feel bad for her she acts like its our fault she's not happy. It's not our fault. We've all tried so hard for so long to make her happy but nothing ever works. I'm just so tired of this. This is only a small part of the stuff she does. There are tons of other little things everyday that she does that are jabs at us and I'm sick of it. If anyone has any advice or anything to say go for it. I just really neede to get this out of my system. The whole thing with my sister moving out happened to day and I just feel so bad for her because she was so excited and my mom had to go and ruin it.