Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: In a land far far away, or so I wish.
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And now you do sound abrasive. Maybe you do not mean to, but I can see why your party planner would find that type of response as being difficult to deal with.
How much she normally plans weddings for really means squat.
I am married. We did it ourselves with the help from our friends. We spent no where near $10,000 (as we did not have that type of money).
We rented a building at the local park. It included a kitchen and nice toilet rooms along with tables and chairs. We (yes us), along with the help of some friends set up all the tables and chairs and decorations the morning of the wedding. No fancy nail and hair appointments to worry about.
Drinks and the finger foods were all self serve. No wait staff. Foods were made by friends and family (part of our wedding gift).
Dinner was also prepared by friends and family. We had basic foods. Grilled meats (chicken, burgers) salads, corn on the cob, etc. Fed buffet style. Drinks still self serve.
Entertainment was typical park fun stuff. We also had two pinatas. One for adults (lottery tickets, small liquor bottles, etc) and one for kids.
That is what I think when people say not extravagant.
Nothing wrong with what you want to do. It sounds lovely!
I still think you can do it all yourself if you do not want to hire another wedding planner.
You might want to send your old wedding planner a carefully worded email asking for a list of items she has already booked for you.
If she writes back saying she has not booked anything ask her for a break down list accounting for her time versus what you have already paid her.
Her time is not free so she does have a right to keep some money. And who wants to work with a wedding planner that does not like you? I am sure in the end you will appreciate her leaving at this point.