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post #1 of 9 Old 03-15-2011, 04:14 PM Thread Starter
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Moving on to Greener Pastures.

Well, My neighbor was diagnosed with glen cancer threw out her body last year. i'm not really feeling up to go threw ever little detail. She was doing great and then started to spiral down and never had a chance to get back up. It was only a week maybe two that she started to feel very bad. She died last night. Just three years ago her grand son died and her husband hasn't yet had time to get over that then his wife dies. They new it would be any day but we were hoping for the best but it never came.

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post #2 of 9 Old 03-15-2011, 06:44 PM
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Very sorry to hear that. Best wishes to her friends & family.
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I commiserate. It's always sad to hear something like that.

"On hyviä vuosia, kauniita muistoja, mutta kuitenkaan, en saata unohtaa,
Että koskaan en ole yksin, varjo seuraa onneain.
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Ja pian taas uusin hönkäyksin, varjo seuraa onneain.
Hei tuu mun luo, pieneksi hetkeksi. Puhutaan, varjoni, valkoiseksi enkeliksi."

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I am very sorry for the loss of your friend. I feel for her husband but he really needs to come to terms with the loss of his grandson. 3 years of healing goes a long ways and he probably needs to get some help. I am speaking from experience here. If you look in my sig you can see I also buried a grandchild. My 3 year old granddaughter and her mommy, my son's fiance'. The first year is the hardest but after that a person probably needs some help if they can't move past the grieving.
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I understand that. But his grand child had something wrong with him. I don't know what it was called but he was never able to walk. His grand pa and grand ma always took care of him. He was always at there house. But The funeral yesterday for Sharon was very nice. I couldn't help to cry so much but thats what your expose to do. It was nice. Her to sons took it good but her daughter took it a little hard. But the one that took it the hardest was her daughter-in-law. She has guilt. But her husband (Sharon's son) Will help her threw that.

I just though the tittles a little off. it should say, Good byes are always hard. Instead of "Moving on to greener pastures." Kinda sounds like my horse died.

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Grandfather should still find someone to help him get over grieving. If you go to look at my website you will see my granddaughter was born with a bad kidney that was removed when she was 5 days old. She lost 1/3 of the other kidney just after her first birthday and the rest of it just after her second birthday. She was on dialysis for 14 weeks, having dialysis 5x a week 4 hours a time, before her kidney transplant. She was killed along with her mommy on the one year anniversary of the transplant. She was 3 years old, my first grandchild and I babysat for her 3 days a week.

I understand it is hard... I know you should still not be grieving so hard after 3 years. Thank you for your sympathy, I will guarantee my loss was just as painful as theirs. There are no easy losses... I am just stating that enough time has passed there should have been some healing and if there is not than someone needs to intervene and get grandpa some help.

Please feel free to click on the links in my sig, light a candle while you are there.
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Wicked- I agree. He has his two sons. (And his chickens.) That will help him. He may never get over it but he will move on to live his life to the fullest and be there for his other grand kids. And his own kids. He just wasn't ready to let go of his wife nor was anyone else. But she was ready to move on. I think he'll see that soon.

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I know we're talking about such sensitive topics, something about which I don't have experience myself and I really, really commiserate for your dear granddaughter WN, so I do for everyone else who has lost someone and read this too. I still guess that grieving is pretty personal process and works differently with different people.

I once watched a tv series about severe traffic accidents. Those ones which leaded into death and they interviewed parents and other people that were close to victims.

I remember one mom who has lost her child told that it took over an year even to realize what happened. Then it hit her and started a complicated process which took long time and very probably is still going.

I still agree that if it seems that the process is all 'jammed', it'd be good to consider to have some help.

"On hyviä vuosia, kauniita muistoja, mutta kuitenkaan, en saata unohtaa,
Että koskaan en ole yksin, varjo seuraa onneain.
Vaikka myrsky hetkeksi tyyntyykin, varjo seuraa onneain.
Ja pian taas uusin hönkäyksin, varjo seuraa onneain.
Hei tuu mun luo, pieneksi hetkeksi. Puhutaan, varjoni, valkoiseksi enkeliksi."

Pelle Miljoona Oy - Varjo seuraa onneain


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You are right when you say everyone grieves differently but 3 years is a long time to grieve hard. I still grieve for my losses but I Thank God for every minute I got to spend with my family. I think that is the difference... I try to look at the good I had from having them in my life than dwell on what was taken from me. I was blessed with some very wonderful memories and for three year I was loved by a very special little girl....
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