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    04-11-2012, 12:32 AM
  #1
Foal
My mom is not at all supportive of horses...

Well just when I thought I could go back to having lessons again my mom said absolutely not. I have not been to lessons in like three months because I got in trouble for forgetting to vacuum the house which led to being accused of having no respect for my mom or the house... So she said no lessons until April. She agreed that I could start back up again yesterday. Well today I call her after school like I do everyday and she says I have an attitude and hangs up on me and then I find out when she gets home that there will be no lessons for me.

She has done this probably like 4 times since I started riding in august. I feel like she will turn any little argument we have into a huge fight so she can take my lessons away. Also I am the one paying for every cent of my lessons and she does not even drive me there my dad and step mom do. She has never came to watch me ride either. Whenever I talk about horses or riding I can just tell by her tone of voice that she is annoyed and angry by me.

Also the thing that I can't wrap my head around is that she loves horses... She had 5 horses growing up and showed and took lessons and worked on a ranch.

Can anyone shed some light on this please I am so sad that she doesn't support me doing what I love.
     
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    04-11-2012, 12:49 AM
  #2
Trained
Jealousy stemming from the step-mom and your dad?

I'm sorry to hear about this. Hopefully you guys can come to terms...
     
    04-11-2012, 12:53 AM
  #3
Showing
Girl I have been there.

I had ridden for years, then one day when the idea of leasing a horse came up my mom said no can do, killed my lessons till further notice, and claimed it was for my safety.

I was so fed up of waiting on her, that I began to volunteer at a therapeutic riding center.. and for helping out, I got to ride a little.

Best decision I ever made. Course I could drive myself.

Try to have a mature conversation with her, without "attitude" or "whine" (parents always claim their kids talk to them in that way) and see what happens. Or find some place close by where you could volunteer at or groom some horses.

Maybe it just got expensive and she didn't want to deal with the cost. Keep that in mind too. Can you get a job babysitting or something?

Exchange lessons for chores?
     
    04-11-2012, 12:55 AM
  #4
Trained
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Originally Posted by Skyseternalangel    

Maybe it just got expensive and she didn't want to deal with the cost. Keep that in mind too. Can you get a job babysitting or something?

Exchange lessons for chores?
OP said that she personally pays for every cent. Also mom doesn't even drive her, it's her stepmom and her dad, so gas isn't an issue either.

     
    04-11-2012, 01:11 AM
  #5
Showing
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Originally Posted by CLaPorte432    
OP said that she personally pays for every cent. Also mom doesn't even drive her, it's her stepmom and her dad, so gas isn't an issue either.

Oh! My bad.. I'm wiped from studying.

But would she be able to drive herself or is she not of age? And if her dad and stepmom are driving her then why does her mom have an influence over if she has lessons or not?
     
    04-11-2012, 01:20 AM
  #6
Foal
I am 15 but will get my liscense in August. I think you are right, my mom I guess shouldn't really influence it! But my mom is the more authoritative parent, my dad is too, but my mom is way more strict and I don't want to get in trouble so I do what she says I guess. But what I really do not get is that my mom loves horses! Does anyone else think that is weird?
     
    04-11-2012, 02:20 AM
  #7
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Originally Posted by Passion4Horses    
I am 15 but will get my liscense in August. I think you are right, my mom I guess shouldn't really influence it! But my mom is the more authoritative parent, my dad is too, but my mom is way more strict and I don't want to get in trouble so I do what she says I guess. But what I really do not get is that my mom loves horses! Does anyone else think that is weird?

That is really weird. Have you tried talking to her about it? Maybe she's scared??

If you do take lessons, make sure that you don't forget to clean up as promised. Breaking promises won't help the situation :/
     

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