Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Western Pennsylvania
Well..while I'd probably smack someone if they said my boyfriend/husband was dead to them..wasn't she drunk? I've learned to not pay attention to anything someone says if they're drunk, coming from a family of alcoholics on both sides.
I wasn't trying tonsay she needed understanding..I'm trying to say to leave her alone with her "personal time" and if she comes back (ETA, with a genuine apology), then she was always a friend and obviously going through a very hard patch in life.
I went through it with an ex-friend who was insane (well..turned insane). I told him I'd be there for him if he wanted to be friends again down the road, he never came back though. Thought I added that story in there, guess not, apologies.
My point that I was trying to make (and completely butchered it, obviously) was to let her know you'll be there if she wants you back as a friend. Not to continue with her bullsh!t for the time being.
I know that if I get drunk (not saying it happens all the time or anything..) that I'm not a nice person. I think I'm making jokes that no one takes as jokes and when someone makes me mad by saying a slightly rude joke back to me I holler and threaten to hit them..Which is why I will never drink at a bar unless I have money for hospital bills and assault charges (for me or someone else) and I won't drink with most people because I know how I can get, and I'm not willing to do such without someone I trust to hold me back/calm me down, knock me out, etc. Her friend obviously doesn't know her drinking limits either.
But..if I misread and this friend said that your husband is dead to her while she was sober, then it'd be over..I think I read it as her saying it when she was drunk though, which like I said before..I pay no attention to what anyone says if their drunk.
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Last edited by Iseul; 02-28-2013 at 11:59 AM.